[Rich*]

I dated one of my friends for a few months when we didn't really know each other that well then we split up for a year during which time we got to know each other properly and became best friends
now we have been going out for nearly 3 years and are fairly sure that we will get married

so yeah, I would advise against dating anyone who you could not call one of your best friends because if you are going to take any relationship seriously then that person will have to be your best friend before long!

God Bless, Rich

[ForeverPraise]

Originally Posted by Rich*

I dated one of my friends for a few months when we didn't really know each other that well then we split up for a year during which time we got to know each other properly and became best friends
now we have been going out for nearly 3 years and are fairly sure that we will get married

so yeah, I would advise against dating anyone who you could not call one of your best friends because if you are going to take any relationship seriously then that person will have to be your best friend before long!

God Bless, Rich

i completely agree with your last statement!!! you NEED to become friends before just completely winging a relationship..lol.. you jsut can't do that.. i mean it!! you have to know them, and learn all their little perks,so you can learn to live with them before getting to be in a relationship... i think you should just wait until you are both comfortable with talking about being into a more serious relationship, and then i think that maybe something would work out!... but it's a really good thing that you're in love with a guy who's your best friend.. i sort of am too.. and it's kind of hard to tell them, but i did.. and he didn't freak out.. he listened, and we talked... and it's all good!

[destroyer]

I would also agree, in last Nov I asked out one of my closest friends and we have been very happily dating since then, I asked for advice from some friends just as you have here before doing it and one of them made a very good point to me and I will share that with you now.

"People say you will marry your best friend, you shouldnt be afraid of dating a friend if you both feel the same about each other" I was in the spot of being afraid of losing a friend and him saying that made me realize that I already made myself the promise to not date somone I wasnt already friends with, so why should this be any different. of course always put prayer at the top of things to do in making your decision.

[[littlenicoley]]

well in my opinion, for a relationship to really work out.. longterm, you have to be best friends. I think anyone who's married, should be/is married to their best friend. Allthough its hard to go for it.. you gotta weigh out the pros and cons.. the way i look at it, you win some, you lose some.. you just got to decide if it means more to you to go for it, or to let it pass by.. (maybe for something in the future)
but if they really are your best friend.. then even if they aren't interested in dating you.. they won't let the friendship go to shambels.
but i can tell you from experience... its great dating your best friend
hope that helped a bit
good luck