[Athanasius]

Originally Posted by Aaron Adams

Why should "Sam" remember sinful things with fondness at all?

Because Sam is a human being, and we return to our sins like dogs to their vomit. I must be honest when I say that I'm very happy for your release from your former sinful life, but do not think that it won't ever creep back into your head. Thinking that it will never become appealing to you is a dangerous thing altogether, and something that should be guarded against.

To jbm:
You need to be taking this to God. Like I told a friend a few years ago who was freaking out about similar things, you need to ask God to give you eyes only for your wife. Quite frankly, there is a good possiblity that you will compare your wife to your sex partners of the past. You are a sinner, that's what sinners do.

What you need to realise is that when you imagine these other women in your head, you are viewing your own mind's stash of porn. You are mentally cheating on your wife. If you are worried that this will be a problem (if it is a problem right now, that's a sure indicator), then I advise you to get into some counselling right now.

Furthermore, when you are engaged, you will definately want to do counselling with your fiance. She needs to talk this through as well, you've sinned against her before you've even met her. You need to give her space to talk, and if you are in a counselling environment...you give her structure and safety in talking.

I guess those are my thoughts right now...