Best friends == attraction?

Yojimbo · 03-01-2005, 02:49 PM

Do you think, whenever there's the situation that a guy and a girl are best friends, that one of them, at one point, was attracted to the other?

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 03-01-2005, 02:58 PM

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Originally Posted by Yojimbo

Do you think, whenever there's the situation that a guy and a girl are best friends, that one of them, at one point, was attracted to the other?

it has been my experience this is the case in my life. Usually though, the girl liked me, but I in no way can claim it as universal.

ForgivenPix · 03-01-2005, 03:00 PM

Not all the time but it DOES happen alot. When I think about it, every guy best friend that I ever had when I was younger, I was secretly attracted to.

The person that I am dating right now is my best friend, and I am obviously attracted to him!

Dice · 03-01-2005, 03:00 PM

Love follows investment. If you put enough time and sacrifice and heart into supporting the well-being of someone of the opposite sex and become intimate with them, you will most-likely develop feelings for them at some point. If it doesn't happen, then there is probably some factor that making you keep your guard up (i.e. they are in a relationship with someone else, they are related to another friend or best friend's girlfriend, significant age difference, major worldview hitch, etc) or your lives are busy enough to not allow enough investment and intimacy for it to occur.

guitarfreak217 · 03-01-2005, 03:08 PM

Happened to me. Only I liked her.

sparklystuff · 03-01-2005, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Yojimbo

Do you think, whenever there's the situation that a guy and a girl are best friends, that one of them, at one point, was attracted to the other?

I don't think that this always happens. It can very well happen, and it can be a good thing, because some of the best relationships come out of friendships.

But I can say, I have had many close friendships with guys that never developed into feelings, on either one of our ends. (I know this because I had discussed it with them) So, it is possible that you can be friends with someone of the opposite sex and not have it lead to a relationship.

Blindman · 03-01-2005, 04:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Yojimbo

Do you think, whenever there's the situation that a guy and a girl are best friends, that one of them, at one point, was attracted to the other?

It isn't necessarily always the case, but certainly in any close relationship between a guy and a girl, feelings of attraction are going to come into the picture sooner or later, even if both people are trying not to feel that way. After all, the same sort of characteristics that make us in someone as a friend also play a part in attraction.

You write "==" instead of "="... Does that mean you're a computer programmer?

Decency · 03-01-2005, 08:11 PM

Never seen PC Programmers use two "==" before.

Most cases, attraction comes into play at one point in the friendship. Everyone is right who said this.

sparklystuff · 03-01-2005, 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Decency

Most cases, attraction comes into play at one point in the friendship. Everyone is right who said this.

Not neccessarily

Decency · 03-01-2005, 08:19 PM

I said Most Cases. Not all Cases. I've known this one girl all my life and she's my best friend, but I don't like her. Once again, MOST CASES.

**adamwagg** · 03-01-2005, 08:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Decency

Never seen PC Programmers use two "==" before.

Yeah == in c (and many other langauges) is for comparison, like are these two equal. So well done its probably a good way of doing it.

Otherwise youd just be assiging the variable Best Friends the value of the variable attraction.

Sorry. Im coding for a palm pilot right now!

guitarfreak217 · 03-01-2005, 09:54 PM

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I don't think that this always happens. It can very well happen, and it can be a good thing, because some of the best relationships come out of friendships.

But I can say, I have had many close friendships with guys that never developed into feelings, on either one of our ends. (I know this because I had discussed it with them) So, it is possible that you can be friends with someone of the opposite sex and not have it lead to a relationship.

Yes, it's possible. Happened to me. I was the only one liking the other person as more than a friend and the feelings aren't mutual so we're just friends. Plus, it kind of hurts that chances of a relationship slightly due to the fact the she also lives an Wisconsin for the time being. But it looks like she'll be moving back down here after her dad gets married.

Anyways... To restate your point, it is possible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex and to have it not lead to a relationship other than a friendship. And if things never work out between her and I in that sense, I still have one of the best friends I could have ever asked for.

**bread man** · 03-01-2005, 11:36 PM

I don't know hey. One of my best friends has a girl as his best friend. I'll just be interested to see how it goes. Knowing the way they annoy each other though, at this point in time, I don't think anything will happen between them.

exo · 03-02-2005, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Decency

I said Most Cases. Not all Cases. I've known this one girl all my life and she's my best friend, but I don't like her. Once again, MOST CASES.

And when he says 'MOST CASES', he means 99% of cases.

exo · 03-02-2005, 01:17 PM

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Yes, it's possible. Happened to me. I was the only one liking the other person as more than a friend and the feelings aren't mutual so we're just friends. Plus, it kind of hurts that chances of a relationship slightly due to the fact the she also lives an Wisconsin for the time being. But it looks like she'll be moving back down here after her dad gets married.

Anyways... To restate your point, it is possible to be friends with someone of the opposite sex and to have it not lead to a relationship other than a friendship. And if things never work out between her and I in that sense, I still have one of the best friends I could have ever asked for.

Thing is, you DO answer the original question in the postitive. The question was not, "Do all opposite-sex relationship end up dating or nothing." It was, "Do you think, whenever there's the situation that a guy and a girl are best friends, that one of them, at one point, was attracted to the other?"