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Old 02-21-2005, 10:50 PM   #1
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is loving in the wrong time a sin?
hello, i just want to ask something.amm..something i cant understand.
iit just happened that one of my churchmate is so much in love with me. he seems so always caring and sweet to me. And this past few weeks, i think im fallin' also for him. but the problem is i still dont want to have any boyfriend as of now and i think its not yet the right time.i really dont know what to do...i think im getting to like him more and more each day we meet.please help me in this matter..would i just accept him or not?

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Considering God is sort of the epitome of love, you can never "love" at the wrong time. If you mean he "likes you", and you like him back, that makes a little more sense. If you think it's the wrong timing, don't even bother. Be friends with him. Stay friends. Friends are good.

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Old 02-22-2005, 12:07 AM   #3
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If you think it's the wrong timing, don't even bother. Be friends with him. Stay friends. Friends are good.
*checks mouth*

You took the words right out of my mouth, Josh.

Also, considering this is a relationship style question I'm gonna go ahead and send this over to D&R. If it proves otherwise GRibbit or myself can bring it back.
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hello, i just want to ask something.amm..something i cant understand.
iit just happened that one of my churchmate is so much in love with me. he seems so always caring and sweet to me. And this past few weeks, i think im fallin' also for him. but the problem is i still dont want to have any boyfriend as of now and i think its not yet the right time.i really dont know what to do...i think im getting to like him more and more each day we meet.please help me in this matter..would i just accept him or not?
Being friends is the best way to start, especially in church relationships! The commonality of being in the same church realy builds unity. Stay friends, and someday, maybe, if you have feelings for this guy still, and he for you when you both are ready to date, then you will already have a solid foundation to stand on. Good luck!
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Old 02-22-2005, 10:25 PM   #5
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Old 02-28-2005, 11:59 PM   #6
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Considering God is sort of the epitome of love, you can never "love" at the wrong time. If you mean he "likes you", and you like him back, that makes a little more sense. If you think it's the wrong timing, don't even bother. Be friends with him. Stay friends. Friends are good.

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well, i agree with you in that.and i want to wait also for god's perfect timing.but now he's asking for some chance to court me. and he said he is willing to wait for the right time also.is it wrong if i gave him a chance just to prove his love for me or not.what will i do now????
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Old 03-01-2005, 07:58 AM   #7
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Old 03-01-2005, 08:17 PM   #8
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Is it a sin? No. Is it necessarily wise? No.
Wow, Chris, you are good.

That would be the likely answer that I would say.
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Very good question. Once that one is answered, then everything will be much easier. And not to be mean or anything servant_me, but it sounds more like a bit of infatuation than actual love. Atleast if you're younger.
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im 17 yrs old now and his 19. we are both studying and we are both in the music ministry.
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Old 03-04-2005, 01:37 AM   #11
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Very good question. Once that one is answered, then everything will be much easier. And not to be mean or anything servant_me, but it sounds more like a bit of infatuation than actual love. Atleast if you're younger.
thanks...but how will i know or how will we know if it is just an infatuation or an actual love. well, i really think that were too young. that's y i need to know and hear your advices guys!
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Old 03-04-2005, 01:49 AM   #12
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thanks...but how will i know or how will we know if it is just an infatuation or an actual love. well, i really think that were too young. that's y i need to know and hear your advices guys!
If you think that you're too young, then I wouldn't suggest going ahead. (Even though admitting you're too young takes much more maturity than actually going ahead.)

Unfortunatly, it's extremely difficult (borderline) impossible, for you to discern whether it's infatuation or love. Infatuation tends to cloud the mind and make such things hard to tell.
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Yeah, it is a bit hard to tell the difference. But love is more of an action/choice while infatuation is what can help lead to that decision to say that you love a person. Infatuation is more emotion based.
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Old 03-06-2005, 09:34 PM   #14
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i really think that were too young. that's y i need to know and hear your advices guys!
Actually, that's precisely why you don't need our advice. You've thought about it and come to a decision (that you're not ready for a relationship). Now you just have to stick to that decision.

For thoughts on how to do that...

Just try to keep thoughts of a relationship with him out of your mind. Just go on as friends.
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Old 03-07-2005, 08:14 PM   #15
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i think both of you should pray about this before it gets any deeper
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