what do girls

**guitarjockey111** · 02-14-2005, 12:41 AM

hey im wondering what do girls want in a guy cause i have some friends but there all mixed andd i needed some help cause if i know what girls want in i guy i can treat them better

Chris · 02-14-2005, 01:19 AM

Ther's no concise direct answer to this question. All girls are different and what they are looking for in a guy is regularily changing. The best thing you can do is not to worry about what a girl is looking for and worry about what God is looking for in you. Concentrate on following God, work towards being the person He wants you to be, and He will lead you to the girl for you.

Also, it couldn't hurt to treat girls with the love and respect you should treat all your brothers and sisters in Christ with. Cause if what they're looking for is not a Godly man, they aren't the kind of girl you want. (Trust me).

sparklystuff · 02-14-2005, 09:03 AM

I would say, that I love a good Christian guy. That is, above everything else. When a guy is a Chrstian, and is showing that he is living a good Christian life, you can see that he will treat you with respect, and care, and hopefully uphold the same standard of purity. These are the main things in a relationship. And like what Chris said, if these things aren't important to her, she's not the type of girl that will lead you in a godly relationship.

Other added things; Open doors whenever possible, if you see a girl that is apparently struggling to carry things offer to help, an overal chivalric attitude.

Just be sweet, speak nicely, don't tease or make fun of a girl, and treat her with overall kindness.

WandaWoman · 02-14-2005, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by guitarjockey111

hey im wondering what do girls want in a guy cause i have some friends but there all mixed andd i needed some help cause if i know what girls want in i guy i can treat them better

Girls also just want you to be yourself. Don't try to be what they want you to be, this will not work. If they don't like the person that you are, then you should find someone else.

**Sean** · 02-14-2005, 01:48 PM

Tall, dark and handsome

ChrisHarbison · 02-14-2005, 02:04 PM

It can be stated in many different words, so I'll list a few:
- M's
- Benjamins
- Dead Presidents
- $$$
- Money

Hahaha...Ok, don't you women start stoning me, I'm just kidding.

I agree, there's no concise answer to this question. Individually, girls all want different things. Corporately, girls like to feel safe, secure and loved. Short of that answer, I don't know what else to tell you.

shingnaz · 02-20-2005, 10:38 PM

Girls do like to be respected. A christian gentleman is one of girls like. But it also depends on the kind of girl ,...coz I believe we are created to be different.
Just be yourself..Im sure the will like you if you are what you are and not living to be what people wanted you to be.

bobthecockroach · 02-21-2005, 07:43 AM

If you want to know how to treat girls, read this:

1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not selfseeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

BWyatt · 02-21-2005, 10:33 AM

Basically what the world-famous cockroach said right above me, but also this:

Be yourself. Unless yourself is a jerk. Different girls like all kinds of different guys. There are girls I know that are attracted to me and those I know who are not. I'm sure that's the case for a lot of people. I found myself changing for girls way too much earlier in life, and I wish that I had known then what I know now. Be who you are and someone will eventually find you to be the most incredible man who ever lived. Unless you're a complete jerk, then you need to change yourself for yourself and for God, not for girls.

I've never been happier in my life than I am with the woman I'm with now. And it's not because I had to change to be with her. It's because I did NOT have to. Don't change for them. If there are shortcomings in your life, work that out with God, but don't change yourself for what you think every new crush you have wants.

Nathanael · 02-21-2005, 10:11 PM

I don't know much, but I think girls want someone with confidence, who will respect them but won't be their slave. They don't want to be your Mommy, they want you to be their Daddy. So respect and be true to what you are, iron out the wrinkles you see in yourself, and kick back and be cool. The girls will come around.

It really depends on the girls though. Some go for abusive relationships, or just poor ones, others are controlling and bossy. Keep an eye out for someone who's best for you, and if the two of you match, you'll know it and so will she, so be confident and forthright, true to your princibles and you'll know what to do when the time comes.

Nate · 02-21-2005, 10:26 PM

It's simple really... girls want this.

In His love,
Nate

IceHawk · 02-22-2005, 07:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Sean

Tall, dark and handsome

Just like you

Singin4Him82 · 02-22-2005, 02:34 PM

Be what you are looking for. In other words, if you want a godly girl then become a godly guy. I'm not talking about just being a Christian and being a nice Christian guy, I'm talking about living a lifestyle 100% for Christ, involving him in everything you do and say. That is the most important advice I can give you.

When it comes to smaller things such as being caring and respectful that should come with being a godly guy because you'll treat the girl you care about the way Christ would have you treat them, as your sister in Christ. Everything is effected by your first priority in life and if your first priority is living 100% for Christ in everything you do then it will reflect positively in every aspect of your life.

**guitarjockey111** · 02-23-2005, 12:38 AM

thnx for all the advice it really helps.ya i treat girls with respect already and i dont think im a jerk but the thing i guess the main reason i psoted it is all the girls i know that are in mu church are realy screwed up they all like bad boys and stuff and ive basically been labeled a good boy but one girl i like for awhile said she was ging for bad boys so i had no luck wich is fine with me but then she said well maybe soem day ill want a good boy well the i said oh so after you screw up your life then you wan tme forget you.so the main reason i psoted this is i was jsut trying to see some stuff that could help and i wanted to see what you guys had to say so i would know more of the general area of girls cause like i stated before"all the girls i know are screwed up".so if you guys have anything else you belive that will help please go ahead and help cause i guess im jsut feeling like that the girl is never going to come along.i wouldnt care if she didnt come along right now as long as i had a good friend that was a girl that i could ask questions like this to.well tell next time.

Singin4Him82 · 02-23-2005, 09:46 AM

It does seem like a lot of girls like the bad boys and I was one of those girls when I was in my mid teen years, but that is all due to immaturity and eventually they will grow up, especially when they realize the bad boys won't be the long term boys. You wouldn't want to date an immature girl anyway, be patient because God has someone out there for ya but don't rush it. You have plenty of time to wait, and trust me it is wortht he wait when you find the person God desires you to be with. Along with that maybe God is trying to teach you something right now while you're single, be open to what he is trying to teach you.