toughie for me.

Blindman · 02-11-2005, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by jesusfreak86ca

I want to help her..bur I don't know how

Is there anyone (pastor, teacher, adult friend, parent, preferably female) that you can go to for help on this? This probably isn't something that you can handle alone; no one should get involved in something like this without a lot of help from others.

**Sean** · 02-11-2005, 06:25 PM

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Originally Posted by jesusfreak86ca

she's mentioned suicide now too...very immature....don't know if she's bluffing or not

Bluffing or not, the fact that she would say that means she really needs some help. And it means she's acting out of desperation. That means she's dangerous. Talk to someone. She needs some help. But also, a pastor at your church can give better advise than any of us on how to deal with the situation.

jesusfreak86ca · 02-11-2005, 06:28 PM

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I'm sorry to hear that.

Honestly, I have no experience with dealing with cutting. But what I do know (and you do too) is that its something serious. It isn't something that can be solved by advise on a message board or even by you. She needs help that you can't give her, BUT you can point her the right way AND you can point others towards her. It sounds like she needs some sort of professional help.

Do you know her parents? Do they know she cuts? Are they Christians? You need to tell SOMEONE that can get her some professional help. When I say professional help, I do include pastor's in that.

I'm praying for the situation.

thanks....I told her pastor's wife tonight. I don't really suspect the message board will help me. It's just a place where I can vent about it without fear of rumour getting out around town. My friends round here are unreliable when it comes to things like this. With suicide threats...should I talk to authorities about it?

**Sean** · 02-11-2005, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by jesusfreak86ca

thanks....I told her pastor's wife tonight. I don't really suspect the message board will help me. It's just a place where I can vent about it without fear of rumour getting out around town. My friends round here are unreliable when it comes to things like this. With suicide threats...should I talk to authorities about it?

If you REALLY SERIOULSY think she might do something bad to herself, yes. But if she is bluffing, it might drive a big big wedge between the two of you.

Does the pastor know about the suicide threats? Given this sort of situation, I would talk to her pastor and your own pastor and trust their advise. They know each of you better than the people on this message board. It also gets more people involved that can reach out to her.

SilverNitrate · 02-12-2005, 04:08 AM

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Originally Posted by jesusfreak86ca

she's mentioned suicide now too...very immature....don't know if she's bluffing or not

I would say bluffing. People who actually commit suicide just do it. They don't tell anyone.

Most of the people who tell someone they are going to kill themselves are either trying to get attention or sympathy.

Then there's the ones who "attempt" then immediately call 911... or a friend who they know will call 911. So I wouldn't be too worried about that.