Av question for Lee and Robin and any other 3 time parents

Gracie Love · 01-19-2005, 04:18 PM

The third time abround you comfortable with your parenting skills, and not really that anixous about the process of pregnancy. But are there any new concerns the third time? Is it any less exciting? Are there more problems with the third than the first two? Exspecially with the age difference from #1 to #3.

The reason I am asking, like I said before, John and I are getting ready to start trying for #3. I do have a ton of concerns aside from the concerns I had with Matthew and Ethan. Like last year I had 2 miscarriages, I have endometrisos that is getting worse with age, money, I have a great chance of twins or triplets (twins would be great (especially girls)), pressure from my family to get my tubes tied, and I have just out and out terrible pregnancies that land me on bedrest for extended periods of time which is not good with 2 boys to chase. Any comments?

BurntHombre · 01-20-2005, 11:40 AM

Are there even any other three-time parents here?

Pipercostal · 01-20-2005, 01:46 PM

My wife and I are currently pregnant with our third. It wasn't a planned pregnancy and I find that we both think of the new baby the least with this one. Of course my wife hasn't felt the baby move yet and we do have a 8 month old and a 2 and 1/2 year old. We're certainly kept very busy so that might be why.

We haven't had any new problems with the third so far and hopefully we won't. The only concern our midwives had was at how quickly my wife could deliver. Her first two came quickly and the third could come even quicker.

And we don't anticipate any problems with the age difference. We will have 3 under 3 for a month so they're all relatively close together. We might have some jealousy from our daughter (the 2 1/2 year old) in regards to nursing, especially since we just this past week said that she couldn't nurse anymore. However, she's great. She entertains our 8 month old and I anticipate she will do the same. Our 8 month old may be a little young and a little too rough with the baby if we were to put them both down, but we will see I guess.

Don't know if that helps at all, but that's what we are looking at with our third.

Gracie Love · 01-20-2005, 02:05 PM

I know jealousy will be a big problem as well as the issue of Ethan(2 1/2) being too rough, Ethan still beats Matthew(6) up. Ethan aslo is at the center of attention phase. And I prefer the kids to be potty trained before I have another but it doesn't seem that is an option if I want to have another. Doctor says with my problems I am playing beat the clock. Not only that after the 2 miscarriages last year, I have wanted to get pregnant again. But with all that has gone on in the last year it is better that we weighted. On the other hand I don't think there will much trying with us. Both of the miscarriages last year were real surprizes. One on the pill and the other using condoms.

Piper how far along is your wife? I am guessing Lee and Robin are about 18-20 weeks.

**Role Modlin** · 01-21-2005, 08:58 AM

This one was totally unplanned and we're excited. We worry if the boys will accept a new sibling but not too much. Geoffry will be 9 when the baby is born and Chris will be 4 1/2 so the age gap isn't too bad. We have been fortunate with the sibling rivalry thing so far so we hope it doesn't become an issue with the new baby either.

Pipercostal · 01-21-2005, 01:35 PM

Ummm, the baby is due July 12th I believe, so that would make my wife.... 15 1/2 weeks pregnant I think. The new baby and Matthew will be around 15 months apart and Bekah will be a month shy of 3 by then.

Nate · 01-21-2005, 01:51 PM

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Originally Posted by BurntHombre

Are there even any other three-time parents here?

My mom is one.

The three of us didn't turn out so bad, so she must have done something right. Haha.

sparklystuff · 01-21-2005, 07:06 PM

My aunt has 3 children with about that same age different. They are older now, but for a while she had 3 children under 3 years. It seemed like it would have been tough, especially since they were all boys

but she seems to manage pretty well. They all play together and everything.

Or like my parents on the other hand, also have three children, and we're all 6 years apart. So, I was a teenager when my youngest brother was born. It was interesting for my parents to try and acomodate my activites, with my middle brother's activities, and my baby brother's play groups, etc. But I wouldn't have had it any other way.

I guess there's is no real right way to do it, you'll be happy no matter what I'm sure

martinedwards · 06-15-2005, 02:52 AM

Lois,our 4th (on the left) was a pleasant little accident.

We have found that each child is less hassle than the last (apart from the move from a standard car to a people carrier!!)

think about it.......

1 child is a 100% increase of children
2nd is a 50% increase
3rd is only 33%
4th........ you'll barely notice!!!!!

The older ones are a great help with reading stories and being play mates and even just "Dad, Lois did this!!!!!!!"

0h_Gracie · 07-02-2005, 10:41 PM

My husband and I have 7 children. I've had them 3 1/2 yrs apart, and 18 mos. apart. For me, each experience was different. Neither better nor worse, but unique in it's own way.

And I agree with martinedwards...any amount after 4 seems inconsequential.