how can you tell?

Kevin071586 · 01-18-2005, 12:36 AM

Well as nice as it would be to just walk up to someone and say "Do you like me," it can often be misconstrued as being cocky or "full of yourself." Not always, but i'd say the majority of the time their response is gonna be "What makes you think that? You think just because you're pretty that everybody in the world likes you?" Etc....

I'd suggest that if you know him, you probably have some common grounds... act on those common grounds. For example, if you both play guitar, get on the subject while talking to him and say "we should jam sometime." He'll probably say "yea that'd be cool" or something slick like that if he likes you... from there you can try to set up a time to do that. "Are you doin' anything after school friday" usually works.

Lesson learned: Suck it up. Rejection is temporary ... what could have been might be life long.

-Kevin

Chris · 01-18-2005, 01:18 AM

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Originally Posted by Kevin071586

He'll probably say "yea that'd be cool" or something slick like that if he likes you...

Unless the guy is anything like me in which case the answer would be "Ha-ba-ba-da-bla-gee-dum?"

Just be prepared that you asking th guy if he likes you could be misconstrued as you coming on too strong or something like that. It's not always that way but sometimes it gets taken that way.

Dice · 01-18-2005, 04:43 AM

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to the guys: how do you act around gals you like/think are neat/whatever?

Just so you know, I like about 1-in-10 girls I know, and I know the same is true of several of my guy friends. You see, liking a girl has little to do with whether or not it would be good to pursue a special relationship with them. So while it may make you feel good to know someone has those special feelings for you, don't take it too seriously. They are only good as a prompting to hang out with a person to evaluate what you truly think about them in the full depth of their character and THEN decide if you should pursue a special relationship with them. Kids these days make too big of a deal out of things too fast, then because of it they get their hearts too involved too fast and get confused and get hurt.

Here-am-I · 01-18-2005, 10:43 AM

Even if he does like me i would wait till im 16 to "date"/"be more than friends" or whatever. Like we would be good/waiting friends with each other until then. (if he wanted to that is) 'Cause I think dating under the age of 16 is rather pointless.

I like the idea of really getting to know eachother for 1-3 years and then dating/courting.

Here-am-I · 01-18-2005, 10:47 AM

BTW... does it change anybodys opinions if i say he's 2 years older than me? I don't think thats much of an age difference.

bobthecockroach · 01-18-2005, 11:31 AM

I think dating under 18 is usually pointless, but to each his own.

Age differences mean more at younger ages. Thirteen to fifteen is much more significant than twenty to twenty-two.

McFly · 01-18-2005, 03:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Here-am-I

umm... not really.... i just "met" him about 6 months ago. i dunno if he acts diff or not.

to the guys: how do you act around gals you like/think are neat/whatever?

the exact same way I act around other girls, except for uno thing: I try harder to be funny and such and usually just end up making a fool of myself.

Chris · 01-18-2005, 10:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Here-am-I

Even if he does like me i would wait till im 16 to "date"/"be more than friends" or whatever. Like we would be good/waiting friends with each other until then. (if he wanted to that is) 'Cause I think dating under the age of 16 is rather pointless.

I like the idea of really getting to know eachother for 1-3 years and then dating/courting.

If that's your intent I don't think it makes much sense to ask him if he likes you yet. At least wait until you're old enough to date. It'll just bring unrealistic expectations into the mix.

Annecdote time!!!!

When I was in high school I had this one friend (gasp I had a friend!) who liked one of my other friends. He liked her for at least 3 or 4 months before he even gathered up the gumption to tell her and ask her out. She refused saying she wasn't ready. He patiently sat back and waited for another 5 or 6 months and she was still not ready. He decided that it was not worth what he was putting himself through and gave up and moved on. Not much later she decided she was ready and called him. He politely refused saying he no longer felt that way and she was right out horrible to him ever since.

So what's my point? I like stories. And, the unattainable expectations she had for him ended up tearing them apart and destroying a good friendship.

No, it's not necessarily what will happen, but it's what could happen if you bring these unachievable expectations to light and expect him to wait for you until you're ready.

Orionsbelt · 01-28-2005, 06:29 PM

I like stories too. I once had a crush on a girl for like three years and I was to frickin shy to do ANYTHING about it even though she was like a close friend. I've moved on, but I look back on that and wonder about it...