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Originally Posted by Matt4JC

2 years is a big gap in high school, but not over the long run. I know many ppl happily married that are well over 2 years difference.

When I was a sophomore in highschool one of my senior friends dated a freshman for a loooooong time. I think the whole year. I thought it was a bit odd myself. She was 13 or 14 and he was 17 or 18.

[Shredcheddar]

Yeah, but two years at 14 and 16 is not the same maturity gap as 24 and 26.

[underoath17]

i dont think age is a big deal i mean common who cares about age.

[Shredcheddar]

Originally Posted by underoath17

i dont think age is a big deal i mean common who cares about age.

Well, for one, you should. Not so much age difference as maturity difference, but it is important in a relationship. Age is a bigger factor when two people are younger like you two. Two years is a long time relative to how long you've lived. However, that's not the topic. I'm not saying that you both can't go out and have a good time, but I just wouldn't take that attitude into any serious relationship.

Anyways, how do you tell your friend that you like his sister? I personally like the "Hey, I like your sister." It's really easy, but if you don't ever ask him or tell him what he thinks, you will never know! So suck it up, man!

[SupergirlOO6]

ok, yeah, deff. just tell your friend. and to throw in my two cents, this whole age controversy is a bit rediculus in my opinion. My brother is a college freshman dating a highschool sophmore. he's 19 she is 15. Regardless of the fact that they have a noticeable age difference, they really like each other. Everyone matures differently, so it's quite possible that the girl matured faster and maybe the guy matured a little slower, so they are at the same maturity rate or something. I really don't see why everyone is making a huge deal out of two years.

[RockOn28]

I think age is a big deal. Iwas 16 and almost dated a freshman(who was 15) last year. It is quite a big deal.

As for telling your friend, say this "You know that girl, (insert her name here)?" Upon his reply say "Do you think she's hot?" This will cause your friend to become angry and upon doing so forbid you to date his sister until you mature. Thus working out the best for both parties. Yes get to know her, no do not "ask her out."


Good Luck

[Epaphras]

Out with it, lad. Just tell him. Man to man.

Just do it respectfully.

_Epaphras

[Kori]

This is interesting since it's basically the same scenario that I was just in. Best friend's sister, and basically the same age difference too... The thing is that I was scared for quite some time to tell my friend how I felt about his sister, because I was afraid that he would take it wrong and not want to be my friend anymore.. That was stupid of me though, because one day I just told him and he was like Yeah okay that's cool. Now he's trying to get me to ask her out... It's rather awesome. I wasted alot of time worrying about how he would take it when it worked out great in the end. So yeah my advice is just to go and tell him. Plain and simple.

[God's Jedi]

My best friend and I have been good friends for nearly a decade now; I've been in love with his sister for...6 of those years. He's never thought that it was anything but wonderful. He's always telling me how great it would be for us to be brothers in law. So, unless your friend is a jerk, I don't think he'll mind at all. Just tell him.

[Chris]

Everybody thinks it's the greatest, most beautiful thing in the world when you fall for your friend's sibling of the opposite gender. But before you go ahead and ask him about it, be sure to weigh the different scenarios in your head. I'm sure you can take care of all the good ones so I'll throw a few not so good things into the mix.

• Your friend turns out to be a jerk about it and forbids you two to date. Thereby causing you to walk on eggshells whenever all three of you are in the room.
• Your friend is great with it but the relationship goes terribly wrong and you and her hate each other, this places your friend into an akward situation as he has to play mediator between the two of you for however long you two are mad at each other. (Been the middle man in this type of scenario before. It's not fun)
• Your friend is great with it but the relationship goes terribly wrong and he blames you for everything that she's been through. Girlfriend gone, best friend gone.

And the list goes on.

I'd say continue to be friends but also let your friend know how you feel. (I wouldn't suggest using Nate's methods though ) Every situation is different so no one can really give you a detailed itinerary to follow. But if you're just friends and you start to go in different directions and find out then that you just weren't meant to be, you'll save yourself the headaches and lost/severely injured friendships the breakup could cause.

[bassboy211]

hi yah, i have had this happen to me numorus times. just tell him, "i like your sister and if you do anything to her or me that will change the way we feel about eachother, lets just say i know some very large and mean people that like beating other people up!!"

it works everytime.

[smashing guitar]

Originally Posted by audiorat1

so we talking about an 10th grader with 8th grader?
That's a big gap. imho.

Naw man. I went out with a girl who was 18 and i was/am 14. Thats a gap.


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