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Unread 12-25-2004, 08:15 PM   #1
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How much do you tip a Pastor to perform a wedding?

My daughter is getting married on Tuesday. Still not sure what an acceptable tip is.

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Unread 12-25-2004, 08:20 PM   #2
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If I were a pastor, and you tipped me, I would send you the money back...
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Unread 12-25-2004, 08:28 PM   #3
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Unread 12-25-2004, 08:45 PM   #4
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I wasn't aware that it was customary to tip a pastor for performing a wedding.

Maybe take him out to a nice dinner before or afterhand?
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and let him partake of the food at the reception...
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Unread 12-25-2004, 09:29 PM   #6
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My dad is a pastor and does a large amount of weddings... I'll ask him in the morning for you.
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Unread 12-25-2004, 09:58 PM   #7
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It's called a "stipend" not a "tip". A tip is what you give a waiter.
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Unread 12-25-2004, 11:16 PM   #8
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It's called a "stipend" not a "tip". A tip is what you give a waiter.
Then what do I give a waitress, bartender, taxi driver, chauffeur or bell boy if I can only tip a waiter??

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Unread 12-26-2004, 12:50 AM   #9
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Moving to the Weddings and Engagement forum. Some people there might be able to help you. Or find out that their wedding might have gotten a bit more expensive...

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Unread 12-26-2004, 02:26 AM   #10
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I wasn't aware that it was customary to tip a pastor for performing a wedding.
I didn't either (especially assuming he's the usual minister of at least one of the two being married...).
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Unread 12-26-2004, 02:27 AM   #11
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It's called a "stipend" not a "tip".
Haha, I don't doubt the accuracy of this statement, but it isn't particularly useful.
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Unread 12-26-2004, 11:05 AM   #12
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Well I talked to my wife this morning as she also said it not called a tip. She also said that it was customary for the grooms family to "tip" the pastor (news to me)(at our wedding it was SHE that cut the pastor a check for $50, but that was back in 1979 (it was a Nazerene church and it was the church we'd been going to too).

So... since we are the brides family WE are off the hook for the "tip" but...

I still curious...

What is a customary amount if money is involved???
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Unread 12-26-2004, 11:25 AM   #13
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Well I talked to my wife this morning as she also said it not called a tip. She also said that it was customary for the grooms family to "tip" the pastor (news to me)(at our wedding it was SHE that cut the pastor a check for $50, but that was back in 1979 (it was a Nazerene church and it was the church we'd been going to too).

So... since we are the brides family WE are off the hook for the "tip" but...

I still curious...

What is a customary amount if money is involved???
It depends somewhat on whether the pastor performing the ceremony is the pastor of the church one is being married in. If you are using a building other than your home church or the pastor's church, then you should give them a gift. I think $50 is pretty much standard. If it is your pastor who is performing the ceremony, then I think its more up to you if you wish to give him a little something.
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Unread 12-26-2004, 10:48 PM   #14
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It depends on the size and length of the ceremony, actually I believe average is around $100 if it's a average size ceremony. If it's fairly small in a smaller church I would say $50 is just fine. Base it off how much you are paying for the church that day. I'd pay within a fair range of that price.
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Unread 12-27-2004, 08:35 AM   #15
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My pastor is doing our wedding, and I know for a fact if I handed him a check, he would hand it right back. I'm sure we'll get him something nice as a thank you gift.
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