guys.... arg!

Chris · 12-28-2004, 10:51 PM

General request to all in the thread: I think that, considering this is an advice thread and forum, I'm going to have to ask everyone to stop debating the differences between courting and dating. No two views on the subject are the same and once again, this is an advice forum. jump4joy07 is here for help. Not a longwinded debate.

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Ok, so she pray's... then what?

Well, she should likely wait for God's response or at least what she thinks God's response is and measure it up against scripture. All the while praying for further guidance and wisdom in the issue.

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Now either God had a bad day and messed up in his communication..

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Of course we've determined this is unbiblical so that doesn't explain why both my friends told me that God wanted me to hook up with two different girls.

Agreed.

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or my two friends got something mixed up...

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This is possible, maybe one of them got confused in what God told them?

Or since I don't believe God appoints prophets anymore since all the prophesies have been documented, they could be lying. Or just mixed up like you said.

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or God wants me to be a polygamist...

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This is unbiblical, so we can rule that out.

agreed again

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just maybe my friends thought I wouldn't argue with them if they said, "God said you should..."

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This is the option that I lean towards.

Quite likely. It's very difficult to argue against someone saying "God told me" or "I feel God leading me" without looking like a heretic or something.

trhoke · 12-29-2004, 07:00 AM

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Originally Posted by Chris

General request to all in the thread: I think that, considering this is an advice thread and forum, I'm going to have to ask everyone to stop debating the differences between courting and dating. No two views on the subject are the same and once again, this is an advice forum. jump4joy07 is here for help. Not a longwinded debate.

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Well, she should likely wait for God's response or at least what she thinks God's response is and measure it up against scripture. All the while praying for further guidance and wisdom in the issue.

I agree with that. I was responding to the fact that initially it sounded like she was just going to wait for God's decision by either sending or not sending a boyfriend. I believe that is wrong. However, she's clarified that she's not doing that (by doing what you outlined above).

jump4joy07 · 12-29-2004, 08:27 AM

Thank you so much Chris for telling everyone to stop arguing! I was so ready to do so! And just to clarify what i came here for: advice and encouragement! I am going to do what i believe is right in God's sight, and i would like encouragement in my desicions! And i am praying for God to send the right guy along, but i am waiting also. I am not going to try and rush God's divine plan! now that i have said that all, i hope further replies to this will be a little more positive!

trhoke · 12-29-2004, 08:55 AM

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Thank you so much Chris for telling everyone to stop arguing! I was so ready to do so! And just to clarify what i came here for: advice and encouragement! I am going to do what i believe is right in God's sight, and i would like encouragement in my desicions! And i am praying for God to send the right guy along, but i am waiting also. I am not going to try and rush God's divine plan! now that i have said that all, i hope further replies to this will be a little more positive!

Very well. ::Flips switch to "Positive brain function"::

Ok, out of curiousity, have you talked to your parents about this? Quite honestly, they could probably help you better then we could.

jump4joy07 · 12-29-2004, 09:02 AM

My mom and I talk about my dating and she wants me to make the decision of whom to date. As long as she approves. She trusts that i will only date a Christian and that i have good judgement. I talk to her honestly about my dating and she trusts me to make the right choice. So yes i do talk to my mom about all these things.

Chris · 12-29-2004, 10:12 PM

She apparently does trust you to make the right decision as well. I had a similar rule when I was growing up. I was allowed to make my own decisions but I had to deal with the consequences myself. I hope you make the right decision as I too know how tough it can be at times without black and white guidance sometimes. ^_^

jump4joy07 · 01-03-2005, 02:15 PM

It's nice knowing that i have the freedom to date whomever i want (within reason), but it makes it hard to have a gray area. Because my mom is more lenient, it makes it a bigger deal to make my own decisions. And to deal with the consequences.

livebytheboard · 01-27-2005, 11:35 AM

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none of you 16 year olds are? Heck, I wasn't mature enough when I was 19. 16. *grumble, grumble* ^_^

Anyways, I too throw in my vote for growing with God more. Only when you have a firm foundation in Christ will you be able to endure the emotional rigors of a dating relationship.

yeah i'm 22 now and i'm far from where i need to be spiritualy, and mental to have any type of relationship, however bad that i may think that i need one.
I've see what i has done to my friends, and that something that i just flat refuse to deal with. I know that when i am ready, than God will lead me to the right person. I know that it may seem hard, we humans are social creatures. I know that i will be happier in the long run. besides if i'm not meant to get married, than i'd rather have good friendships, and memories, than a "boulevard of broken dreams".

Wheatmeister · 01-27-2005, 02:24 PM

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I am only 16, and i think that if it's meant to be, that God will send someone along. It all depends upon the person and their maturity level. Everyone is made differently, therefore everyone is able to handle different situations at different ages. Someone older than me hasn't been through and might not be able to handle what i have.

While I agree to a point that all people mature at different rates, you're just going to have to take my word on this, as someone who was 16 once. You don't need to worry about guys at this point. There are plenty of other things out there that can occupy our time. A few things to consider:

Are you planning to go to college? If so, what if your boyfriend doesn't go to the same school you do? What if he's a few hours away? Whatever you do, don't pick a school based on the boy who's also going there. You'll regret it.

High school relationships don't often last. There are always exceptions, but you'll find that as you grow up, your views on some issues will change. There's a big difference between the maturity level of a high school senior and a college freshman. There's an even bigger difference between a college freshman and a college sophomore. After that, things start to level out.

A few years won't kill your chance for everlasting happiness, I promise. Wait a few years, grow up some more. Don't forget that sometimes God's answer to a prayer is "Wait."

schooner08 · 02-06-2005, 03:50 PM

i'll have to say..i'm jumping on the "grow more with Christ" bandwagon

With God we can do all things impossible

also, you should pray.

here's a verse i like , it might help: "I keep the Lord before me always. Because he is close by my side, I will not be hurt" -Psalms 16:8 NCV

God Bless!

<3 Bethany

danalyn · 02-07-2005, 12:16 AM

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So yes i do talk to my mom about all these things.

great! That's great that you can talk to your mom about all this. I don't think I was that open with my Gramma (mother figure) till I was engaged... or maybe not even till after the wedding.

And I know it feels like it's more pressure knowing your mom trusts you... but it is a positive thing. Maybe it'll help when you do get to the point of choosing who you will date to think "I have to take this person to meet my mother. Will I be ashamed to do that?"