[Rach]

Originally Posted by punkrockergirl

ok, yes i am a boy crazy girl, but..... the 18 year old turned out to be in a cult and the freshman boy was not the bst influence for me, but curtis, the guy i like, goes to church, he is a devout cathloic and he is so sweet, i know u all say dating is pointless at my age, but i get a good feeling when i know someone likes me and i really like having someone i can hug and talk to and hang out with, i know now all u guys are gonna say that i need to reaferm my faith in God, but u can hug God and u cant go to the movies and u cant hold hands with God, i really need someone who is on earth to just love me, and i know this might sound pitiful, but it is true, i need to be loved by someone, i need to feel something inside, that is all that i long for and it might sound bad, but it is true, and now that i am writing this it suddenly uccers to me that i have kept this inside for a long time, and this is the first time that i have been able to talk about it, so anywyas, that is my defence,
Kate

This absolute (and pathetic) desperation for "someone to love you" will most likely send one of two signals to any guy you encounter:

1) It will be a complete turn off to them. They won't want someone that is that desperate or that needy.
2) See it as an opportunity to take advantage of you because you are so desperate and needy.

Honestly, Sean hit the nail on the head. In this state, any worthwhile guy will not find you worthwhile to date. Your priorities are really screwed up, and that will only attract the wrong kind of guys. You need to shift your focus dramatically...off of boys and crushes, and onto Christ and strive to grow in the knowledge of Him.

[Dancer3]

Oh, don't do that!!! Girl! :-)!!! You don't have to HAVE a boyfriend! Don't follow the trends. I totally get where your coming from. Do you know if he likes you back? That's like so key in this senario. Just pray about it. Whatever you do.. DO NOT TELL TOO MANY PEOPLE. It'll come back and bite you. Speaking from experience. If you really like this dude curtis. Pray about it. Make conversation with him. Glad he goes to church. That's the other thing. Messin' with non believers is playing with fire. I'll pray for you.

[Sean]

Originally Posted by punkrockergirl

ok, yes i am a boy crazy girl, but..... the 18 year old turned out to be in a cult and the freshman boy was not the bst influence for me, but curtis, the guy i like, goes to church, he is a devout cathloic and he is so sweet, i know u all say dating is pointless at my age, but i get a good feeling when i know someone likes me and i really like having someone i can hug and talk to and hang out with, i know now all u guys are gonna say that i need to reaferm my faith in God, but u can hug God and u cant go to the movies and u cant hold hands with God, i really need someone who is on earth to just love me, and i know this might sound pitiful, but it is true, i need to be loved by someone, i need to feel something inside, that is all that i long for and it might sound bad, but it is true, and now that i am writing this it suddenly uccers to me that i have kept this inside for a long time, and this is the first time that i have been able to talk about it, so anywyas, that is my defence,
Kate

I agree with what others have said. In addition, while you obviously like Curtis on one level, you have also openly admited to being boy crazy, wanting a BOY to talk to, wanting a BOY to hug, wanting a BOY to go to the movies with, a BOY to love you, really wanting a BOY on earth.....other words, YOU JUST WANT A BOY and are looking for an excuse to date one.

So lets imagine that Curtis does really like you and you to end up going out. He likes YOU, but you only really like him because he's filling the role of the BOY you want. YOU WOULD BE USING HIM TO GET WHAT YOU WANT. It wouldn't be about shared mutual feelings. It would be you getting something out of him that you want.

Lastly, I think you seriously need to stop and think about why you need a BOY to fill this role in your life. I can understand the need to have someone close to you. Thats why we have friends and family. I think you seriously need to evaluate why you must search after boys to be content. Why isn't the love of your friends and parents enough? My fear is that if you don't deal with this right now you'll start a trend in your life of ALWAYS needing the attention of BOYS. Right now its just a "stupid teenage boy problem," but what happens when you're 20 years old and still starving for BOYS attention?

[danalyn]

Originally Posted by Dancer3

Oh, don't do that!!! Girl! !!! You don't have to HAVE a boyfriend! Don't follow the trends.

Ok. here, you look like you're agreeing with what other folks have said. "you don't have to have a boyfriend!" excellent! I agree wholeheartedly. but...

I totally get where your coming from. Do you know if he likes you back? That's like so key in this senario. Just pray about it.

what's this about? if she doesn't need a boyfriend and does not need to follow the trends... and if all the advice everyone else gave her is right, what difference does it make if he likes her back?