[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by EvenThen

Well we're amazing friends- I don't think she'd take it like that. Initially she had said that she didn't really want to talk about it, and that she wanted to think about it herself and not let anyone influence her opinion. She told me she always knew there was something different about me and stuff like that.. but I'm totally not ready to date. I'm only 17 and I don't think dating is an emotionally responsible thing to do right now, but I had to tell her anyways. I couldn't keep it from her any longer.

But there's a lot of backstory.. *crosses fingers, hoping people won't think he's an idiot* well this may sound kinda weird, and I may come across like a junior high girl, but weird stuff happened at summer camp. We were in a worship service, and during the middle of it she went up to the front and was sharing something that God put on her heart. Well I was listening and thought the Lord was telling me that we were going to be more than friends. It actually kinda freaked me out, and I was like 'Lord I wasn't ready to hear that'.. but He kept saying it, and the only reason that I know that is because I would never have thought that myself... so anyways I tried to push it away, but I couldn't.. He just kept saying it. So I asked for a sign, for confirmation. Well after the service she just walks up to me and puts her hand on my elbow and gives me this look like she knows, and then walks off. Needless to say, I completely freaked. I've gotten many people's opinions, some people tell me to pray about it and take it seriously, other people tell me I'm blowing it out of proportion, but I think I've come to a conclusion. When I told her like two weeks ago, after we were done talking, we went back in to youth group... worship was still going, so we both went back to where we were sitting. From my spot I could see her (just because of the position of my seat, not because I was like excessively staring at her) and I was just completely overwhelmed and the Lord was like 'if you let Me be the center of your relationship, I will give you the desires of your heart'.

Yeah... I definitely needed a huge breath of fresh air over that.

I encourage you to let God give you the desires of your heart. Not by making what you desire now come true, but that each desire will be from him.

I do not put a lot of stock in feelings. The times I know the Holy Spirit was giving me direction was usually when He was in the process of convicting me of sin.

I really encourage you to not look for signs or omens in things as the Lord's leading. True, she may be the one who is his best for you, but she also may not be.

You sound very mature and like you are looking at this fairly objectively. Now I just want you to realize that signs are all well and good, but I want you to consider the possibility that you have conjured this all in your head. I know I did before, and a lot of people have. Put your faith in the Lord and in his day to day leading and not in signs. But really, I think so far you are handling this well.

Though try to keep it unawkward. Do you know how she feels about you?

[JaytheK]

Well we're amazing friends- I don't think she'd take it like that. Initially she had said that she didn't really want to talk about it, and that she wanted to think about it herself and not let anyone influence her opinion. She told me she always knew there was something different about me and stuff like that.. but I'm totally not ready to date. I'm only 17 and I don't think dating is an emotionally responsible thing to do right now, but I had to tell her anyways. I couldn't keep it from her any longer.

But there's a lot of backstory.. *crosses fingers, hoping people won't think he's an idiot* well this may sound kinda weird, and I may come across like a junior high girl, but weird stuff happened at summer camp. We were in a worship service, and during the middle of it she went up to the front and was sharing something that God put on her heart. Well I was listening and thought the Lord was telling me that we were going to be more than friends. It actually kinda freaked me out, and I was like 'Lord I wasn't ready to hear that'.. but He kept saying it, and the only reason that I know that is because I would never have thought that myself... so anyways I tried to push it away, but I couldn't.. He just kept saying it. So I asked for a sign, for confirmation. Well after the service she just walks up to me and puts her hand on my elbow and gives me this look like she knows, and then walks off. Needless to say, I completely freaked. I've gotten many people's opinions, some people tell me to pray about it and take it seriously, other people tell me I'm blowing it out of proportion, but I think I've come to a conclusion. When I told her like two weeks ago, after we were done talking, we went back in to youth group... worship was still going, so we both went back to where we were sitting. From my spot I could see her (just because of the position of my seat, not because I was like excessively staring at her) and I was just completely overwhelmed and the Lord was like 'if you let Me be the center of your relationship, I will give you the desires of your heart'.

Yeah... I definitely needed a huge breath of fresh air over that.

Well, I'm always cautious when somebody tells me that God's saying something like that about a girl, but for some reason I really don't feel that way right now. Then again, I don't trust my own feelings, so my feelings on this perticular matter don't mean much. But for some reason, I think you may possibly be right. But on the other hand, be careful. I wouldn't just assume this is the girl you're going to marry, 'cause emotions can sound a lot like God, if you know what I mean. Anyways, I hope everything eventually comes together with you and her. Just be careful.

God bless!
Jay the K

[EvenThen]

Exactly. I'm trying amazingly hard to look at this objectively. I've prayed about it hardcore, and I'm really listening... and I think He's telling me something. But I'm just going to wait a couple years and see what He does. I know what He decides will be the best for me, even if I don't like it.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Just don't mistake hormones for the Holy Spirit. I have seen too many good guys fall for their hormones, positive it was the will of the Lord. More of a thing to just keep in your back pocket to keep from getting to stuck on what could be a construct of your own mind.

[EvenThen]

Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

Just don't mistake hormones for the Holy Spirit. I have seen too many good guys fall for their hormones, positive it was the will of the Lord. More of a thing to just keep in your back pocket to keep from getting to stuck on what could be a construct of your own mind.

I totally understand. Which is why I decided not to tell her about my summer camp experience.

[ForeverPraise]

Originally Posted by EvenThen

I totally understand. Which is why I decided not to tell her about my summer camp experience.

I don't see how it relates you to a junior high girl, and even if you think so, maybe GOd really was talking to you.. i have had incidents in which i have thought that God was talking to me, and he really was.. and when i realized it and wasn't completely freaked, it was this really great feeling of relief.. and i just think that if you truely do believe that it was GOd, and not your hormones.. just meditate on what God said, and in time, something great could come out of it.. but don't get to serious about this.. give her some space to think about it.. and when she's ready, she'll let you know how she feels... and this is speaking from experience, although i am only a 16 year old girl... well i have to go.. PM me if you wanna talk privately about this.. seriously.. im open to talk to you!!! Anytime!!

In Him, and Him Alone,
Kate