[Chris]

I don't know if I'd suggest you two being alone so much. I don't see much wrong in hanging around each other when there are others present. (Not necessarily right next to you two in the same room but at least within earshot and such. If you're outright alone with each other things happen. And that's all I have to say about that.

[G.E. Thorpe]

What do you mean Chris?

[JaytheK]

I think he means that you might end up doing something that you wouldn't do if you hadn't been in the one-on-one situation. I know, I know, you couldn't ever do something like that! That's something un-believers do! Good Christians don't do that sort of stuff! Sadly, that is not the case. When hormones start rushing through your body, rationality is thrown out the window. And I'm not saying you would do something less then wholesome, I'm just saying it's best to keep yourself out of bad situations. And even if you didn't do anything wrong, there is a lot of emotional connecting that happens when you're doing stuff alone with someone of the opposite sex. Especially if you are attracted to that person. If you don't want to start a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship at right now, and you said you didn't, you do not want that type of emotional connecting happening right now. Anyways, that's just my two cents.

In Christ,
Jay the K

[Chris]

Originally Posted by johnkess

I think he means that you might end up doing something that you wouldn't do if you hadn't been in the one-on-one situation. I know, I know, you couldn't ever do something like that! That's something un-believers do! Good Christians don't do that sort of stuff! Sadly, that is not the case. When hormones start rushing through your body, rationality is thrown out the window. And I'm not saying you would do something less then wholesome, I'm just saying it's best to keep yourself out of bad situations. And even if you didn't do anything wrong, there is a lot of emotional connecting that happens when you're doing stuff alone with someone of the opposite sex. Especially if you are attracted to that person. If you don't want to start a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship at right now, and you said you didn't, you do not want that type of emotional connecting happening right now. Anyways, that's just my two cents.

In Christ,
Jay the K

You are correct sir!

[G.E. Thorpe]

John thank you that does help. It explain more of what Chris said, cause I wasn't catchin' it.

[bananaman]

Personally, I am a proponent of group outings and such. I think they are far more relaxed and definitely less dangerous. I think that especially through high school it's better to just get to know people as friends. Then again, there are relationships that begin in high school and end in a healthy marriage. But I would hang out in a small group for the time being, for what it's worth. Also, examine your motivations. What draws you to Trevor? Why do you find you want to spend more time with him?

[G.E. Thorpe]

Well first what draws me to Trevor is that he's like 6'5. That'll draw you to just about anybody. But mostly because he's so nice and he actually like alot of the things I like. Anything significant about those questions?

[BillSPrestonEsq]

It sounds like you are drawn by what you mention, first to a physical attraction, then an emotional, and then as a freind.

If you seek to keep this on a friendship level that will need to be reversed.

You will need to not notice the looks, and start working on a friendship without those thoughts. If you follow down that path, you will not stay just friends. (I made that mistake with girls before and to avoid romantic entanglements had to basically avoid them as friends as well. That makes things rather awkward at best.)

Ultimately, apearance grows less and less important to you over time in a relationship anyway. Honestly as you grow to love someone you find your atractions being shaped by who they are, and not what you have in view as an ideal.

So, what I would reccomend is to be friends with him and make a conscious effort not to think about how good looking he is.

[G.E. Thorpe]

I do like him as a friend first. But it's kind of hard not to notice someone who is like 3 feet taller than you. I barely ever think about his looks in general except his height. He is really cool and the first thing in the mornin we talk to each other and check up on the previous day. Does anyone have any other advice on the matter. The only thing I said about his looks were his hieght.Oh well later.