[Chris]

I'm going to have to disagree with you cathy_cathy. Christian or non doesn't have a lot of standing on our maturity. I've met Christians age 20 who were as mature (if not less) as 14 year old non-Christian boys. Our faith isn't some kind of all redeeming quality saving us from the short comings of immaturity. There are of course, the exceptions to the rule. I've been Christian since I was about 15. I was not mature enough to date at least until age 19. When I realised I didn't need to date just for the sake of having a girlfriend.

Good indicator (in my experience) of when you are mature enough to date: When you realise you aren't mature enough to date and don't try to do so and focus on more important relationships, especially your relationship with God. Catch 22 I'll admit, but that's when God is more likely to make you into the person you need to be when you meet your future mate and are really ready to date/court and get married.

[Singin4Him82]

Originally Posted by cathy_cathy

But, in this situation I think you should waite at least till the age of 16. B/c now you say you want to date her, But tell me what will you do with a girl older than u withoght money...I don`t mean money is everything, but can u pay for her? can u give her presents? or can u drive her to her house...?(etc)
I understand how much u like her, and how much u want to date her...But u should waite!

I agree with what Chris said above and I wanted to add something. You say he should wait until he's 16 to date her? She would be like 20, there's a pretty slim chance she would date him at 20 haha. Not to mention I'm pretty sure that could be illegal as well because he's minor.That aside though, most 20yr old woman in their right minds would not date a 16yr old teenager.

[Saxophone]

Great point Delaina.

[bassboy211]

thats true. ok well i know the right thing to do after seing her the other night. (nothing was said and nothing went on) but htanks for all the input. peace.

[Shredcheddar]

Originally Posted by cathy_cathy

I don`t think that it is impossible to be mature in these ages. I`m 16 and think I`m mature.And I think 1 of the reason is b/c we`re christian. I think we are more mature than the others in many ways.

Well, of course you think you're mature. When was the last time you thought about it and told yourself you were immature? It doesn't happen. Just because we're mature for our age doesn't make us mature enough for someone older. At 16 it is very hard to be more mature than a 16-year-old, becuase people don't just start maturing beyond their years, at least not enough to close a gap of 13 to 17.

Those four years of difference are huge. Bassboy, you would be graduating from high school the same year she graduated from college. The maturity level of a 13-year-old especially is not anywhere near where it will be at 17, because you really don't start to gain that adult maturity until around 13. If you were both in your late twenties, the maturity gap would be more of an actual gap rather than the chasm that it is now.

Cathy, I would be careful about your last comment about the maturity of Christians versus non-Christians. It comes off as snobbery or self-righteousness, and that's a bad thing to portray to a world of non-Christians who already see Christians as self-righteous and overly pious anyway.

[JaytheK]

Originally Posted by Shredcheddar

Well, of course you think you're mature. When was the last time you thought about it and told yourself you were immature? It doesn't happen.

I don't completely agree. I don't think I'm immature, I know I am. But then again, maybe I actually think I'm somewhat mature for realizing my immaturity. In which case I would be over-estimating my maturity level (in at least one area). Hmmm.....very confusing.

But generally, you are right. Most people do think they are more mature then they actually are.

Jay the K

[cathy_cathy]

It`s true, sometimes we think we`re more mature than we actually are... So I agree with what Chris says... but I said it (that Christian are more mature..) b/c I have non-christian friends who are really inmature. But of course, there are also Christians who are more inmature than a non-christians....

Singin4Him82 said:
I agree with what Chris said above and I wanted to add something. You say he should wait until he's 16 to date her? She would be like 20, there's a pretty slim chance she would date him at 20 haha. Not to mention I'm pretty sure that could be illegal as well because he's minor.That aside though, most 20yr old woman in their right minds would not date a 16yr old teenager.

I didn`t mean he has to be 16 to date her, I mean he has to waite at least till the age of 16 to have a date.
Well, I have a friend who is 20 and her b/f is 17 and they really love each-other... I think that it depends of both... and If they love each-other there is no problem.