Soooooooooo Confused

fretplaya · 11-08-2004, 03:53 PM

Well Everybody How u all dooin, good ,thats great.

Now down to business.

Well there is this girl at my church that i went out with for a while then she broke up with me who knows y. then she saw me about a month ago and she started starin at me. now she is relly quiet around me and my friends actually she is allways quiet when im around. i still love her but i dont know if i should feel this way for her. Pleezzzzzeeee help me out if u can all advice is good advice comin from brothers and sisters in the lord.

nix · 11-08-2004, 07:08 PM

Well, what are your goals for the future? What are your reason for getting back with her?

Chris · 11-09-2004, 12:35 AM

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Originally Posted by fretplaya

Well Everybody How u all dooin, good ,thats great.

actually I'm kinda tired.

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Now down to business.

Well there is this girl at my church that i went out with for a while then she broke up with me who knows y. then she saw me about a month ago and she started starin at me. now she is relly quiet around me and my friends actually she is allways quiet when im around. i still love her but i dont know if i should feel this way for her. Pleezzzzzeeee help me out if u can all advice is good advice comin from brothers and sisters in the lord.

I know the feeling. Back in the day I had a couple of girls I went out with and one of them I still liked for a while. The tricky thing is figuring out which kind of love it is you feel for her? Is it all butterflies in the stomach and floating on a little cloud when she's around? If you answered yes then you need to be REALLY careful. Those symptoms lean more towards infatuation than love. And that's what you need to be very careful around. What if you do get together and then in a little while those feelings go away? The novelty wears off and things get awkward and weird. Especially when you try to go for things a second time around. (voice of experience here).

Also, you say she's really quiet around you? That could actually be one of many things. I posted this in an older thread but I think it works in this situation too:

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Originally Posted by I

Let me tell you about teenage girls. They're all crazy. Anything they do can be a sign of about ten different things.

she could like you
she could be shy with you
she could be unsure of how to greet you
she could be weirded out by something on your face
she could think you smell funny
she could think your hair is parted on the wrong side
she could hate your guts
she could act like she hates you but actually be hiding her love towards you behind a veil of hostility
she could be worrying that you'd like her if she gave you so much as the time of day
she could have done some background work on you and realised you're not her type and decided to cut her losses
the list goes on...

please be aware that the comment made at the start of the list was a gross generalization and only used with the intent of getting laughs. Please don't send me nasty PM's or anything.

SilverNitrate · 11-09-2004, 01:20 AM

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Originally Posted by fretplaya

Well there is this girl at my church that i went out with for a while then she broke up with me who knows y. then she saw me about a month ago and she started starin at me. now she is relly quiet around me and my friends actually she is allways quiet when im around.

Isn't this normal with a break up? I mean, I always felt awkward around an ex that short after we broke up.

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Originally Posted by fretplaya

i still love her but i dont know if i should feel this way for her. Pleezzzzzeeee help me out if u can all advice is good advice comin from brothers and sisters in the lord.

How do you know you love her? (oh, and that's an actual question... I'm not trying to be sarcastic)

fretplaya · 11-10-2004, 11:21 AM

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Originally Posted by SilverNitrate

Isn't this normal with a break up? I mean, I always felt awkward around an ex that short after we broke up.

How do you know you love her? (oh, and that's an actual question... I'm not trying to be sarcastic)

Oh i Know ur not bein sarcastic, Hey id like to say thanx to all of you who are posting.

Yeah i kinda feel weird around her and all Still but id like to be able to talk to her more ya know, just try an be better friends for now and if anything happens i guess it happens. what do you all think am i an the right track.

I appreaciate all of your comments from Girls ANd Guyes be it negative or positive.

fleeting_grey · 11-10-2004, 03:13 PM

hey- your on the right track. It's good to take things one day at a time. I'm sure everything will work out

kupcguitarkid · 11-10-2004, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by fretplaya

Oh i Know ur not bein sarcastic, Hey id like to say thanx to all of you who are posting.

Yeah i kinda feel weird around her and all Still but id like to be able to talk to her more ya know, just try an be better friends for now and if anything happens i guess it happens. what do you all think am i an the right track.

I appreaciate all of your comments from Girls ANd Guyes be it negative or positive.

seems like you have longterm plans in your head for you and her being together...and trying to work toward that slowly. that may sound weird, but i think that way a lot. if you think thats the way youre going, i would advise you to stop and drop her as a priority - make your relationship with god your first priority.

Mel8585 · 11-10-2004, 08:44 PM

Hi! i think the best thing u can do is to talk to her. Maybe just say hi and see how she's going. If she acts all defensive and doesn't want to open up to then her shyness maybe because she doesn't want to talk to u. But if when u talk to her she's smiley and asks u questions back and seems pleased u ahhve talked to her than maybe just maybe she has an interest in u again.

Let me know how it goes !

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Originally Posted by fretplaya

Well Everybody How u all dooin, good ,thats great.

Now down to business.

Well there is this girl at my church that i went out with for a while then she broke up with me who knows y. then she saw me about a month ago and she started starin at me. now she is relly quiet around me and my friends actually she is allways quiet when im around. i still love her but i dont know if i should feel this way for her. Pleezzzzzeeee help me out if u can all advice is good advice comin from brothers and sisters in the lord.

fretplaya · 11-16-2004, 06:06 PM

im gonna see her tonight ill let u all know how it went

fretplaya · 11-17-2004, 11:23 AM

Well i didn't really talk to her cause at drama practice when im on the stage she isnt then when im not she is, if you follow me. so there wasnt a lot of time to talk inbetween ya know. but i did ask her how she was and told her that she was dooin good on her dance(for the play). she said thank you and was very polite, Normaly she wouldnthave given me the time of day. then she had to leave but she turned around and gave me a big smile. So i returned the smile and she left, that was about all that happend.

Now i dont know how to feel for her i mean 2 days ago i thought she was once one of my best friends whom i liked a whole lot but now had driven her away. NOw i just want to hold her im my arms again.

Well thats about it if any of you would like to give ADVICE any would be apriciated.

Pray for me
JOHN BECK

fretplaya · 11-21-2004, 02:22 PM

Hey where is everybody.. OHHHH WELLLLLL ill talk to myself LOL

Hello my presious how is u LOL.

Hey i saw her today talked awhile gave her a hug it was awesome. Yall souuld post if u have time that way i can talk to some other than my self about it

bobthecockroach · 11-21-2004, 02:24 PM

Hey, no reason to talk to yourself.

My advice would be to just be friends and don't worry about a relationship.

**Simo** · 11-21-2004, 11:01 PM

Im sure you know what the right thing to do is... i dont cause i dont know you or the girl... make a decision then stick to it...

everybody here tends to speak against starting a relaionship (not saying that is a bad thing - just very cautious which often is good) im not going to do that!

you make the decision... if you decide to go further ie: begin a relationship or pursure the possibility then just take things slow!

Cinster · 11-22-2004, 06:27 AM

i have a question or two. . . . 1 why date now? 2 what are your motives for dating this girl? that's about it i will come up with more i promise. lol. later days!

**H.M. Murdock** · 11-22-2004, 11:19 AM

Not to put too fine a point on things, but... you are nowhere near being ready for a relationship.
Age. Yeah, yeah, say whatever you want. But the odds of you being mature enough to handle a relationship at your age...?
Also, define love. No, I am not kidding. Define that state of being that is love.