Doubts

nix · 10-21-2004, 07:54 PM

Hi all...

I'm curious.

Thise of you who are getting married, do you have any doubts at all or scared about anything?

Those who are married... did you have any doubts and where you scared about anything? How do you feel about it now that you are married?

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 10-21-2004, 08:17 PM

not really.

WandaWoman · 10-21-2004, 08:46 PM

I guess I'm not really scared, but nervous in a sense....ya know?

It's like starting a new life, if you will.

Praisey · 10-21-2004, 10:03 PM

hmmm...

the doubts that i've had was mainly centered on will i be a good wife/mom in the future... will i be able to give him what he needs all the days of our lives together... but never ever about is he the one for me kind of question...

but i think having all of these questions are natural.. it's like a fear of the future, of the unknown...

but once your wedding day comes... and when you see him looking so handsome and beaming proudly... all of the questions you ever asked yourself will disappear as if it never existed in your mind...

i'd be worried if you're walking down the aisle and you'll still have doubts hehe

y'know?

it's... the most perfect day of the rest of your lives together.

danalyn · 10-22-2004, 01:43 AM

Mylene, I'm so glad to see you post a yes and have had some concerns... I was worried about being the only one!
yes. I had fears or concerns... I wasn't nervous, though! I did have one "lurch" of the stomach as it was time to walk down the aisle but that was it.
Fears: do I love him enough? will I be a good enough wife? that type of thing...

Singin4Him82 · 10-22-2004, 10:13 PM

I was mainly concerned about the in-laws but other than that I was 100% sure of everything. I was so unbelievably calm on our wedding day, it actually shocked me how calm I was. I know it had a lot to do with the fact that I knew the Lord was over everything completely and I spent my day in constant prayer. I think that is a huge solution to staying calm and being free of doubt.

Chris · 10-23-2004, 01:14 AM

I was having doubts the day of. But not the usual type of doubts. More concerns really. Since all the girls were a little bit late to the church, I began to worry and wonder if she was coming. (I have a tendency to build things up in my head). It didn't help that the pastor made a point of coming down to me every couple of minutes and saying, nope not here yet.

Praisey · 10-23-2004, 01:18 AM

awww that must've been real nerve-wracking... why was dana late?? dana, why were you late?

Chris · 10-23-2004, 01:21 AM

I'm not sure anymore. Aren't brides regularily late? It was probably just last minute preparations.

danalyn · 10-23-2004, 01:26 AM

well, we should've been ready on time given we started getting ready like 3 hours before the wedding!!!

but... I dunno... try having 7 people in the house trying to get ready, plus 2 photographers, a makeup artist, and... I'd say 3 people who were just there for kicks. It was a little crazy.

we left the house at 12:30! we weren't hugely late!

Hey! it's the one day I could safely say they weren't gonna start without me!

Praisey · 10-23-2004, 01:37 AM

hehe amen to that

Singin4Him82 · 10-23-2004, 10:25 AM

My thought on the wedding day was "I'm gonna take my time because I'm the bride and it can't start without me." haha I stopped at Starbucks on the way to the church actually. However, we got ready at the church and got there at 9 and the wedding started at 2. Actually my flower lady was the one who almost caused the wedding to start late but everything thankfully was on time.

ChrisHarbison · 10-23-2004, 01:09 PM

I think doubts, to an extent, is normal. I mean, consider all the things that change when you get married. If you're doubting your feelings for your fiance or doubting whether or not you actually want to get married, that may be a different story; but if you're having doubts about finances or in-laws or stuff like that then I'd say you're perfectly normal. The only thing I've really been nervous or doubtful about is finances.

Dave H · 10-23-2004, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by ChrisHarbison

I think doubts, to an extent, is normal. I mean, consider all the things that change when you get married. If you're doubting your feelings for your fiance or doubting whether or not you actually want to get married, that may be a different story; but if you're having doubts about finances or in-laws or stuff like that then I'd say you're perfectly normal. The only thing I've really been nervous or doubtful about is finances.

Exactly. I might think something is abnormal if you didn't have doubts about something. There are so many things to consider when getting married, life changes in a dramatic way. You can't possibly account for every little detail...but that's the beauty of marriage, when things come up, you get to face them together.

Praisey · 10-23-2004, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by ChrisHarbison

If you're doubting your feelings for your fiance or doubting whether or not you actually want to get married, that may be a different story

yes i agree... that's what i was trying to say

for all of those who are engaged right now... if you have these doubts... stop and pray and talk to your fiance/fiancee about this.