[Chris]

Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

But Chris, everyone keeps telling me I should be worried, or just am too clueless to be worried when I say I am not. It is making me a bit paranoid.

I wasn't in a constant state of worry either, I just had moments. (like 3 months before when I just stood there and kept saying over and over that I was getting married in 3 months all "Chandler" style. Aside from that, the only real worry moment was in the half hour before the ceremony where Dana was running behind a little. Beside that I was looking forward to it all.

[Dave H]

I said it before, but I'll say it again...I can't imagine not having doubts about something somewhere in the process. You guys who say you have no doubts must be a lot stronger men than I am, and believe me, having doubts about things had nothing to do with my confidence in the situation. But there were moments of doubts about things across the board: finances, children, will something terrible happen at the ceremony, etc. It's like a person who's scared of heights...they know climbing up a short ladder is safe, and even safer since their best friend is holding it steady, but when they climb up and are standing up with nothing around them they still get scared

[Ted Logan]

Originally Posted by ChrisHarbison

BTW, Aaron or Bill, do either of you ever think about having kids and worry that you may be too hard or too soft on them? I know that when it comes to marriage, the only thing that actually terrifies me is the thought of possibly being a bad father. I fear that if I have a girl, I'll be to easy on her and she'll be a spoiled daddy's girl. I fear that if I have a boy, I'll be to hard on him and he'll hate me because he think I never loved him. Am I alone it this?

I don't see how worrying will help me be a better parent. I mean, I do think a lot about having kids, and I know that there's a LOT about being a parent that I need to learn, but I'm committed to learning, and to being the best parent I can be. I know that it will be hard to discipline my children, but I also know that I will be quite strict when it comes down to it. When problems happen, they'll happen, and all I can do is do my best to avoid problems that are avoidable. Worrying about unavoidable problems seems unhelpful

[ChrisHarbison]

Originally Posted by Aaron Adams

I don't see how worrying will help me be a better parent. I mean, I do think a lot about having kids, and I know that there's a LOT about being a parent that I need to learn, but I'm committed to learning, and to being the best parent I can be. I know that it will be hard to discipline my children, but I also know that I will be quite strict when it comes down to it. When problems happen, they'll happen, and all I can do is do my best to avoid problems that are avoidable. Worrying about unavoidable problems seems unhelpful

Wise words. BTW, I love your sig.

[loriborealis]

Originally Posted by Praisey

but look at this thread... almost all who said they're worried about something are female... that must tell you something hehe

Hmph! I will mention here then, that I, too, (a female) really didn't have any doubts. And everyone thought I was silly for not having more doubts because I was afterall marrying someone on the other side of the world and moving to that side directly after the wedding. But the thing is, I just knew it was all in God's hands. I knew there was no point in worrying. I'd made the decision consciously and deliberately and prayerfully, and we were committed to making it work. So, why worry?

But still, I think worries are perfectly normal and don't say anything negative. Unless, like someone mentioned before, your concerns are about whether or not this person is right for you or will be good to you or if you really are supposed to be married... then I'd say stop and do some serious praying.

[Athanasius]

No real doubts. I knew I wanted to marry Sarah, so any worries were secondary.