Help Me!!!

carter · 09-27-2004, 09:02 AM

I have found someone that I love very dearly, and she likes me, but are afraid to ask her if she would be interested in going out on a date sometime. What do I need to do to work up the courage to say how I feel and ask her?

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 09-27-2004, 11:17 AM

1) Open mouth
2) Ask her
3) Close mouth

seriously, there is no magic potion. You just swallow your fear and do it. I see you are 17, you may consider waiting a while, and just hanging out as friends. keeps the tensions low, and helps it to be more of a natural transition. But someday, you just got to work up enough courage.

em0ticon · 09-27-2004, 04:19 PM

buy some "Ice Breakers" gum and chew.

Yojimbo · 09-27-2004, 04:23 PM

Just find some convenient event that you both have an interest in, say a show or a movie, and ask if she wants to go. You don't have to plant a love smooch on her just then, but at least she'll know you want to hang out with her.

Awzmgd117 · 09-28-2004, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

1) Open mouth
2) Ask her
3) Close mouth

i like how you broke a complicated process down into simple, easy to follow steps...

Living Sacrifice · 09-28-2004, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by Awzmgd117

i like how you broke a complicated process down into simple, easy to follow steps...

I know. It would've been so confusing otherwise.

Spazzy McGee · 09-28-2004, 07:11 PM

seriously dude ask her. but first look at the situation.

1) Are you her friend and do you hang out together with friends

2) Does she even know your name

3) Has she ever said "hello (your name here)"

4) Do you respect women (do you tell dirty jokes, flirt with women, look at women.)

5) have you been her friend for at least a month.

If you answered "no" to any of these questions either get to know her (BUT DON"T PUSH IT. IF SHE SAYS SHE DOSENT LIKE YOU KNOW WHATS GOOD FOR YOU AND GIVE UP) or get over yourself because your just infatuated.

Remember this: "All the Boys want a valentine from a "Barlow Girl". Boys think their the bomb. Cause they remind them of their "Mom".

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 09-28-2004, 07:30 PM

I look at women. I look at men, and little kids too. It keeps me from running into them.

And I most assuredly want a woman unlike my mom!

em0ticon · 09-28-2004, 07:47 PM

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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

I look at women. I look at men, and little kids too. It keeps me from running into them.

oh, my mom didnt tell me to look at women, maybee thats why i bump into them and i get shouted at. im such a loser.

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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

And I most assuredly want a woman unlike my mom!

if you think about it, it would be weird to have a woman thats like your mom, wait, i take it back, that would be bad.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 09-28-2004, 07:52 PM

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Originally Posted by em0ticon

oh, my mom didnt tell me to look at women, maybee thats why i bump into them and i get shouted at. im such a loser.

if you think about it, it would be weird to have a woman thats like your mom, wait, i take it back, that would be bad.

I am half joking in this thread, but my mom is violent! I would not be able to deal with a woman like my mom. Seriously, the idea that someone like your mom is best is a little naive. Some of us come from situations where that would be a bad thing.

BWyatt · 09-28-2004, 08:08 PM

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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

Seriously, the idea that someone like your mom is best is a little naive. Some of us come from situations where that would be a bad thing.

This is so true...

And for those of us whose loves are like our moms... it can be kinda scary sometimes. My g/f says stuff my mom used to say to me sometimes and I just get chills.

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1) Open mouth
2) Ask her
3) Close mouth

As always, you are a true genius.

dReAmIn4EvEr · 09-28-2004, 10:44 PM

ok rather simple solution...

#1 hang out with her among friends
#2 make an effort to hang out with her whenever possible
#3 make her feel like u want to b around her
#4 invite her to come to anything ur doin that she could come to
#5 just let her know u care 4 her(not love or like...just that u care for her)

Maru · 09-28-2004, 11:35 PM

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Originally Posted by dReAmIn4EvEr

ok rather simple solution...

#1 hang out with her among friends
#2 make an effort to hang out with her whenever possible
#3 make her feel like u want to b around her
#4 invite her to come to anything ur doin that she could come to
#5 just let her know u care 4 her(not love or like...just that u care for her)

Excellent! I would only add to #4 - Invite her to family outings. Get her involved with your family. That way, your parents will get to know her in the begining, and not while you two are going out.

Awzmgd117 · 09-29-2004, 08:12 AM

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Originally Posted by dReAmIn4EvEr

ok rather simple solution...

#1 hang out with her among friends
#2 make an effort to hang out with her whenever possible
#3 make her feel like u want to b around her
#4 invite her to come to anything ur doin that she could come to
#5 just let her know u care 4 her(not love or like...just that u care for her)

ahh now i'm so confused we went from a 3 step process to a 5 step process...next thing you know we'll have a 12 step program...

and it will be purpose driven...sorry just heard Rick Warren speak, talk about the purpose driven outline...

dReAmIn4EvEr · 09-29-2004, 08:15 AM

haha but trust me, if u do that kinda stuff it will build on her