[Astonished]

Is it right to go out with someone whos in a relationship already?

[redbaron]

Originally Posted by Astonished

Is it right to go out with someone whos in a relationship already?

I would have to say no, unless they have an explicit arrangement "we are going to continue to see other people in casual settings to get to know people" i.e. a non-exclusive relationship.

If that's not the case (and i would flee from the former stated non-exclusive relationship like the plague)... then no, you shouldn't. You are helping them cheat on their partner, whether they're married, dating, etc it doesn't matter.

And for what it's worth, just because you're not the one in the relationship doesn't mean that you're not in the wrong. Both parties are equally at fault (though s/he might go find someone else to cheat with-- that's their problem).

It's not something i would get involved in, that's for sure.

[rock_guitar1990]

Originally Posted by redbaron

I would have to say no, unless they have an explicit arrangement "we are going to continue to see other people in casual settings to get to know people" i.e. a non-exclusive relationship.

If that's not the case (and i would flee from the former stated non-exclusive relationship like the plague)... then no, you shouldn't. You are helping them cheat on their partner, whether they're married, dating, etc it doesn't matter.

And for what it's worth, just because you're not the one in the relationship doesn't mean that you're not in the wrong. Both parties are equally at fault (though s/he might go find someone else to cheat with-- that's their problem).

It's not something i would get involved in, that's for sure.

i agree with this. u would be helping whoever it is u would go out with cheat on their boyfriend/girlfriend.

[Astonished]

What if she hates her boyfriend?

[Mattlock]

Then why is she still girlfriends with him?

[Andrew]

Originally Posted by Astonished

What if she hates her boyfriend?

If she doesn't have the guts to break up with her boyfriend then she is not someone you want to be in a relationshp with, anyhow.

[Maru]

There is always the questions: If she does it to him, why not me?

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Its called cheating. Where I grew up it was considered a worse blight on your charachter than capping somebody, so realize my cultural bias.

It is NOT okay. If she hates her boyfriend, she needs to ditch him, and even then, you sure as heck dont want to be rebound boy.

Run, plain and simple till this girl gets her act together. A guy on my older brothers baseball team caught a guy on a date with his girlfriend and beat him to death with a baseball bat. I could name worse, so not only is it wrong, it is dangerous and stupid.

[john_a]

you should read the book "Dateable", by Justin Lookadoo.

[Astonished]

Ok, then what do I tell her, cause she came onto me. Do I say no, i think your an awful person for cheating

[bobthecockroach]

Um, no. That was an easy question.

What should you do if she comes on to you? Say you're not interested in helping someone cheat.

[Tony]

"I'm sorry, but I don't think this is right, as you are in another relationship."

She should respect that. If not, she's not worth yours.

[Chris]

Absolutely, tell her no. You really don't want to go out with someone who is willing to cheat on her current boyfriend. Not only will you be a rebound boyfriend, but you'll also be just as likely to be cheated on with the next guy.

[danalyn]

why do you have to ask this? do you know the person she's dating? any idea how that person would feel if he found out she was sneaking around?

no it's not alright to date someone who's already in a relationship! no, don't tell her "No, I think you're awful." Tell her something reasonable like you don't want to have to share your girlfriend with someone else. you want someone who realizes how special you are and is going to treat you that way.

[sgary]

Did you pray about it?..I think you already know the answer. You can also talk to your parents about this, THEN your friend. sgary