Unwanted Attention:

Gwenny · 09-05-2004, 12:45 PM

So I go to this college-aged, group at my college, Called Campus Crusade For Christ. I'm on leadership there, I lead praise and worship, and I'm one of their servant team members. Lately there has been these two guys that have been coming. One of their names is Jack, we call him "Whacko Jacko", he always follows me around, and just says weird and random things. He asks me out like 3 times a night, and blows kisses at me, and winks at me while I"m leading praise and worship. I've tried to tell him that I don't like him, but he refuses to take a hint. When I'm downright rude to him, he thinks that that is my way of flirting with him.

The other guy, Matt, used me to make this other girl jealous, which didn't really bother me, until the girl got a boyfriend, who wasn't Matt. Now Matt, follows me around all the time, calls me, asks me out, drives past my house. I'm not really freaked out, because I think he just has a crush on me. But he won't take a hint either.

What do I say or do, to get them to leave me alone? Any RESPECTFUL advice would be appreaciated. (I don't want to hurt their feelings.)

Nate · 09-05-2004, 01:52 PM

"I'm flattered by the attention you've been giving me, but, I'm sorry, I'm not interested in pursuing that kind of a relationship with you. I'd appreciate it if you would stop attempting to pursue that kind of a relationship with me."

Seems like bluntness mixed with gentleness is the way to go.

In His love,
Nate

Singin4Him82 · 09-05-2004, 04:26 PM

Yep i agree, it sounds like you just need to confront them bluntly. Basically that's the only thing you can do. If it gets more serious to where you feel unsafe around them you need to share this will someone who can help you take care of this in more of a restraining order direction lol.

Jay42 · 09-06-2004, 10:58 AM

I hosted Crusade for two years, and we had our share of strange-o's coming to our meetings.

I agree with Delaina (hee, I should assign a macro to just print that), and tell the guy firmly - without berating, but firmly.

Anymore problems, tell a staff member. They'll sit by him at the meetings and keep him occupied.