[1twelve2]

just a general question - what do you think? Who should ask first (the girl or guy) for the initial date and such?

[Becky]

The guy! Not just cause it's traditional.. but becasue it is biblical for the guy to be the head of the home, so they need to start practicing the whole leading thing now. And one step of that is by being the one to ask the girl out.

[Tamar]

I agree the guy should be the pursuer and the girl by asking first risks having the guy go out with her just to be nice but if a guy asks you know where he is coming from...sometimes (= TC

[bobthecockroach]

I would think girls would be more inclined to go out with someone to be nice.

It makes sense that guys would take the lead. However, I don't think it is wrong for a girl to ask a guy out.

[JESOd]

my current boyfriend would not even notice me if I hadn't "taken the lead" by asking him to this one dance.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

I think either way is perfectly fine. Ruth is an example of a woman leading btw in the scriptures.

[celly_guitar]

I think that we(men) are mostly shier with s. I'm not interested in Dates right now though. But if I were interested in someone But wasn't sure and she asked me...I'd be awesome. The Bible mostly is refering to the Church and speaking and leading at Home.

Women leading? Never over the man. I do not consider being the asker outer leading.

[Singin4Him82]

As far as asking someone to go on a date or just to hang out I don't think it matters who does it. However, I strongly believe the guy should be the leader in the relationship.

[Epaphras]

Allowing the girl to lead sets up a pattern of passive, complacent men and controlling, even masculine (as far as roles go) women. It's best to avoid it as soon as possible.

If a guy isn't initiating, chances are he's too immature for the kind of relationship you deserve. If he can't initiate to start the relationship, he probably won't initiate anywhere else in the relationship, IMO and in my experience. A guy like that doesn't deserve your heart, at least while he's still immature.

Girls, be patient. Your time, and your man, will come. The best things in life are those which you must wait for.

Guys, get off your butts and initiate. This culture needs strong men of God, taking the God-given role of leader and initiator in our relationships with these beautiful creatures called young ladies . Set the example, be a man, be strong, initiate, and LEAD!

~Epaphras

[J songs]

Im not sure that it makes too big a deal who gets things started, just dont make it a habit to let the girl lead. Men are supposed to take the intative.

[smhatahy]

If a guy isn't initiating, chances are he's too immature for the kind of relationship you deserve. If he can't initiate to start the relationship, he probably won't initiate anywhere else in the relationship, IMO and in my experience. A guy like that doesn't deserve your heart, at least while he's still immature.

Some guys are just not as outgoing...

[IceHawk]

Originally Posted by Akshay

Some guys are just not as outgoing...

yeah... so true...

[john_a]

i like what justin lookadoo says in his book Dateable. "if you're too scared to ask her, then you're not man enough to go out with her."

[Maru]

I think the man. However, it is nice if the girl asks sometimes. For me, it makes me feel like she wants to be with me, that she likes being around me.

I think you should initiate the first "hanging out" or "dating" experience. After that, I do not think it is bad for the girl to ask you.

[player123496]

I think that some guys (like myself) are extremely shy. I don't think that it's Biblically wrong for girls to ask guys out, as long as the guys are still the head of the "household."