Is it important...

nix · 02-26-2004, 04:43 PM

Is it important for for you and your partner to share the same ministry or is it ok that they have a differant ministry but still supports you with yours in other ways?

~Nix

mrs_jiggyfly · 02-26-2004, 04:51 PM

What I think is important is that you each support each other in whatever you do for God. Whether it be seperate or together. Though together is my favorite way. If there is a calling on my life that isnt on my husbands, he can do his thing and I can do mine. We both attend the same church and have the same goal...to spread the word.

nards · 02-26-2004, 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by mrs_jiggyfly

What I think is important is that you each support each other in whatever you do for God. Whether it be seperate or together. Though together is my favorite way. If there is a calling on my life that isnt on my husbands, he can do his thing and I can do mine. We both attend the same church and have the same goal...to spread the word.

I agree with this comment.
I think it would be good to have the same ministry, but providing you're supporting each other, having different ministries isn't a biggie.
For instance, one person may be musically talented and the other one not, neither of them should try and fit into the other persons ministry, God has created everyone different.

mrs_jiggyfly · 02-26-2004, 05:27 PM

That would be like me getting to sing in the praise and worship team just cause mr plays in it...

you DO NOT want to hear me sing.

nards · 02-26-2004, 06:30 PM

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Originally Posted by mrs_jiggyfly

That would be like me getting to sing in the praise and worship team just cause mr plays in it...

you DO NOT want to hear me sing.

Exactly. Some people are just not talented in certain areas and it would be embarrassing (to say the least) to put them in there just because their spouse was in that ministry.

***BillSPrestonEsq*** · 02-26-2004, 07:32 PM

me and my fiancee are heavily involved in awana. However, neither one of us can deal with the other's groups as a rule.

I tend to work with little punks, and she with church kids. I work with boys, she with girls.

I tend to be far more serious in my style as to some of my boys, I am their male role model, and I want them to realize what being a man is about. (I like working with 5-6th grade kids from either rough, poor areas, or inner city youth.) And she would rather deal with more normal kids.

However, I feel kinda like a specialty tool in my ministry. I do well at what I do, but I am there for that minority of kids, so its different. If everyone were like me the program would collapse cause I deal less well with church kids. I just don't always relate.

also I play in the church worship team when I am in SD. She certainly can't join me there.

however, there is lots to do together. We are both working on getting used to getting out of our niches and meeting in the middle and she is learning some sound stuff.

MrCrabby · 02-26-2004, 09:09 PM

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Is it important for for you and your partner to share the same ministry or is it ok that they have a differant ministry but still supports you with yours in other ways?

~Nix

I don't think it is necessary to both be in the same ministry.
Think about it this way.......what if your partner was the pastor?

zoe r · 02-26-2004, 09:39 PM

I'm not exactly sure what "ministry" means.

I do think their political/religious beliefs should line up to a point.

Singin4Him82 · 02-26-2004, 09:56 PM

It's not vital that we share the same ministry but I've always prayed for a husband who had the same passions for the same ministries as I do. Thankfully, my fiance and I both have very strong passions for youth, leading worship, and missions. However, in missions we have differeny passions there. He's got a stronger passion for overseas and I have a stronger passion for at home missions. I would love to go overseas and he's really taught me so much about his passion and desire there and visa versa. I'm excited about doing both with him. I think the great thing about it is that we both balance each other out and learn alot from our passions together and our passions that are different.

**Rach** · 02-27-2004, 08:04 AM

Nix, you sure are asking alot of relational questions like these lately...

Anyways, as most have said, i don't think it is vital that you share all the same ministry goals and passions, but i do think there should be some form of ministry that you can both equally share in. Chris and i both have a passion for youth, and working with the youth, so we plan on purusing that, but he also has a passion for worship, something that (being completly unmusical as i am) cannot really share with him, but can support him in fully. As with me, i have a passion for women and some form of womans ministry, something that he really can't share in fully, but is there as support for me. I think the key thing here is just being each others helpmate and support in whatever ways possible.

Drill · 02-27-2004, 10:17 PM

people always say it before me, but yeah- I think it's awesome when partners have the same dreams and ministries. Like I know one guy a missionary from our church, who wouldn't try to date or pursue and girls that wouldn't be going to Haiti when he was decieding to go as a missionary. he found a lady going and they are married. it works out great. but also it's ok for them to be different. I usually think God will instill the same desires and passions among the two people he brings together, but yeah... basically what every one has already said