23 is plenty of time. Think of it this way, at age 23 you could start a 4 year degree, get a decent full time job, and then marry a gal in sequential order by the time you're 28. Not bad in my opinion.
I think I have had a lot of those "stop looking, you'll find someone" experiences. Here's my take: when you are driven, having fun, focusing on things that really matter to you (loving God, earning money or preparing for your career, or just taking time to be a good quality friend)... That's attractive all around. Like, not only to those who you are around, but also when people network naturally people want to include people who have things together and are passionate about their future. This brings you into new social contexts.
But seriously, when I stopped to think about it I would get antsy and nervous. No gal wants that. But when I was focusing on things that matter, like leading bible studies, being faithful to the church, holding down a decent job, etc. I think gals were more interested in me.
The common one people say is confidence. I would say purposefulness or intentionality.
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