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Unread 11-11-2014, 07:23 AM   #1
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I'm broken hearted. Pls help. I'm feeling down

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Unread 11-11-2014, 07:29 AM   #2
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Unread 11-11-2014, 07:33 AM   #3
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I found out he have sex to other woman. And flirting. His reason is he miss me so much
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Unread 11-11-2014, 07:52 AM   #4
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Is this the same guy that's still married?

I'm sorry youbare broken hearted. But, his reasons isn't s real reason. There is no excuse to have sec if he is engaged relationally with you. "Missing you" isn't a reason. It sounds like he objectified others as means to an end. The end is his pleasure. In other words, he has sec because he is selfish and wants to feel good, not because he wants to connect emotionally or bond with another individual.
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Unread 11-11-2014, 08:01 AM   #5
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Yes he is. His separated. I know his longing for that because after long years he was not able to have sex since he work in other country. I don't know if I'm lack of understanding. I'm so hurt. And I can't forget him. His still in my heart and I miss him
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Charm22: Thrash is right.

I am also sorry you are brokenhearted. It hurts when people betray your trust and are unfaithful to you. This guy has a pattern of being unfaithful and being selfish. Just because he's a human being doesn't mean he gets to have sex; just because he has had sex before doesn't mean it is his to have. Somehow he thinks that when he can't get sex the "normal" way, he can have sex with someone else. That's so wrong it is ridiculous! He thinks that's an excuse -- as if he can blame others for his mistake! You aren't the solution to his problem. It isn't your fault.

You need to get away from him and drop all contact with him. Seriously. Block him on Facebook. Delete your phone's contacts with his name. Delete his contact in your email. Block his Skype contact. Stop texting him. Stop sexting, sending cute pictures, or anything like that if you're doing that. Blocks calls for specific phone numbers he calls from.

Cut off everything.

I'm sure after you've cut off all these ways of communication, you will be tempted to find another way. Look for ways you might want to connect with him that I haven't mentioned, and then cut those off too. Tell people you aren't with him anymore and he is bad for you. Why? Because they will help you stay away from him if they know that he is no good. You want them to help you, to support you in getting rid of him.

It will hurt to remove someone from your life, but ya know, it will hurt a lot less than the pain he will continue to inflict on you if you keep communication -- emotional abuse, cheating, hiding, disrespecting, etc. You don't need him, and you don't need his destructive behavior.

There are so many better options out there.

You don't want to encourage him to continue in his lifestyle by saying it is OK to cheat or lie. You implicitly say "It is okay to cheat on me" if you continue to be lovely to him. It is NOT ok. So do not be lovely to him anymore.

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Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it. I'm really having a hard time now. After more than a year I waited for him. Because his working in other country. He promise to see me when he come home and made it on my birthday but it turns different he went home to his place. He said before the come back to his work he will see me then later I found out it will not and his promises broken like making calls to me or message me. Although he communicate but not like before. His sister message me and asking me to come to their place coz they want me to meet them but my friend said not good idea. Not safe for me and to think I'm the girl his the one who should do that. He never said sorry to me of what happen even he know I cried because of him. Not sure if he still care for me. His seem different person as I know but he said UE just don't know what his doing his full of problem in mind. Eve. Flirting to other girl he did because he missed me
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He has no remorse for what he did? He didn't express any desire to change?
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Unread 11-11-2014, 07:26 PM   #9
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This just happen recently. What he told me he is bothered of things. he want to fix his life. But I can't understand why he has to flirt and had sex to someone
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I know it's not easy, but in such a moment you should seek the Lord, read the bible(psalms) and pray.

Even though I walk
through the darkest valley,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.
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Unread 11-12-2014, 01:19 PM   #11
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Reading your Bible is a good piece of advice, for sure.

Do you have one, charm22? Do you need some help finding some passages that may guide you a bit in regards to the stuff going on?
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Thank you for that verse
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