how will you know if its time to let go?

charm22 · 10-27-2014, 10:17 AM

I'm confuse at this time. Is it right for me to let him go? His married and he said he separated with her wife but seems they are still together and he is hiding something from me. He can't be contacted that easy to talk on phone and his seems afraid to be heard by his family talking on phone. But he said I trust him and he loves me. confuse

athanatos · 10-27-2014, 10:24 AM

Do not pursue this man. Let him go. It is wrong (adulterous) to try to keep him.

If he is married, you should be trying to help preserve the marriage and encourage them to love one another. You should not try to lead him away from his wife, whom he vowed before God to love and cherish until death.

Even if he were divorced, do not go after him.

a) It is adultery.
b) If you were to marry him, apparently he doesn't seem to think it is wrong to see someone else while he's married. That means there is no principle in his mind that prevents him from cheating on you, if you were his wife, either.
c) He is hiding things from you.

(b) and (c) should be reasons not to trust him.

http://www.gotquestions.org/divorce-remarriage.html

**Sean** · 10-27-2014, 10:37 AM

If he will lie to her, he will lie to you.
If he will cheat on her, he will cheat on you.
If he will break promises to her, he will break promises to you.

Even if they were officially divorced for biblical reasons, you shouldn't date him now. Ending a marriage isn't something you do easily or quickly...and if he is, YOU DON'T WANT HIM.

Everything about this SCREAMS stay away.

Likewise, that this isn't obvious to you seems to indicate you need to spend some time figuring somethings out yourself.

***Dr. Thrunk*** · 10-27-2014, 11:30 AM

True love does not hide, nor does it debase an institution as important and crucial as marriage.

This man, while he may say he loves you, is showing his true colors in these actions. His colors shout that he is not to be trusted, and that he has not discovered, or has forgotten, what love is.

It is a very bad idea, nay a disastrous idea, to pursue relations with this guy. Cut it off immediately and find someone who will healthily interact with you. Be very wary, and do not surrender your intellect to your will. Instead, surrender your will to your intellect.

***Leboman*** · 10-31-2014, 06:34 PM

You should have never had the relationship to begin with.

Let go and cut all ties with him.