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Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

so did you ask? Are you sure she knows?

My wife's grandfather thought they were engaged for several months longer than her grandmother knew...

It is a funny story now, but I guess what I am getting at is this...

Clarity in communication is always good in a relationship.

I didn't ask, but I'm sure she knows (we did choose a ring together after all). I like to think that we've maintained clearer communication through this time than most, as instead of simply question -> answer -> engaged, we spent weeks talking about what it all means both with each other and with our close family.

I definitely agree that clarity in communication is good for relationships, and that's one of things I'm striving to keep as a priority.

Also, redbaron, I like your advice. The current timeline is second half of next year, so we're looking at somewhere between 6 and 12 months. Essentially we're striking a balance somewhere between when I would like to get married ( pretty much immediately) and making sure that it's enough time for family to be comfortable with.

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Well, to give you an idea, we got married on the 11th, and the 30th was 6 months from the day we actually picked the wedding day... so 5.5 months for an engagement?

I'd suggest gunning for the 6 if you can, simply because once you know you're going to get married, that whole waiting thing gets a TON harder.

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Originally Posted by redbaron

I'd suggest gunning for the 6 if you can, simply because once you know you're going to get married, that whole waiting thing gets a TON harder.

+1

We had a little over a year and half engagement, and it wasn't horrible, but there were some tough areas in that long wait. I don't regret it, mostly because getting married before I graduated would have been a bad idea.