What to do about Dishonesty?

Ethan.Bassist. · 10-19-2010, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by josey wales

thanks man, i was just going off of what you said i hope it didn't upset you

Not at all, my friend. I'll find someone someday. I'm still young and I've learned A TON about myself and about what I want in a girl through this experience. But for now, I just need to learn how I'm going to apply what I learned to my future relationships. But no, I'm not upset at all, it's actually encouraging!

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Originally Posted by josey wales

what are you taking about?? frogs don't smoke.

bahahaha!!! Totally wasn't expecting that!

**Josey Wales** · 10-19-2010, 02:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Ethan.Bassist.

Not at all, my friend. I'll find someone someday. I'm still young and I've learned A TON about myself and about what I want in a girl through this experience. But for now, I just need to learn how I'm going to apply what I learned to my future relationships. But no, I'm not upset at all, it's actually encouraging!

awesome brother, i'm trying to tread lightly on what seems thin ice here... so yeah, and so you know it's not all perfect either, were in counseling right now to make it stronger, but yeah other than that it's good and our son is due in 3 weeks from this friday

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Originally Posted by Ethan.Bassist.

bahahaha!!! Totally wasn't expecting that!

HA i'm glad, i pretty much knew it would put a smile on your face...

so have you "done the deed" yet, if you don't mind my asking, and if so how are you taking it?

Ethan.Bassist. · 10-19-2010, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by josey wales

awesome brother, i'm trying to tread lightly on what seems thin ice here... so yeah, and so you know it's not all perfect either, were in counseling right now to make it stronger, but yeah other than that it's good and our son is due in 3 weeks from this friday

HA i'm glad, i pretty much knew it would put a smile on your face...

so have you "done the deed" yet, if you don't mind my asking, and if so how are you taking it?

Hey that's great about your son! and yeah, we could always use more help, so that's good that you guys realize that.

It did!

I haven't, I'm going over tonight after work. I told my friend it's like knowing that someone's going to die, but having to wait until a certain time to tell them. I hate it. But I'll post on here tonight to tell you guys how it went. I'm confident in my decision, but man does it stink.

**Josey Wales** · 10-19-2010, 03:11 PM

yeah i bet, well man i'm here for you if you need to chat. i'm sure theres a lot of folks that are. i completely understand your feelings.

Ethan.Bassist. · 10-20-2010, 01:19 AM

That was probably the hardest thing I've ever done. I told her what I wrote down. She is probably still beating herself up about things. I could tell that this was the last thing she wanted. It sucked. Like, I know I shouldn't, but I feel like a monster. Like I just choked a puppy. She cried a lot. If you ever get the chance to break someone's heart and then hold their crying quivering body to comfort them in the pain that you (though it may be for the best) brought, I would suggest you do something else. Because it sucks. A lot. I kept very calm the whole time. A good two and a half hours. To the point where she thought I wasn't even sad about this. Then I gave her a hug, she turned to go inside and I just broke down. My best friend was calling right then to see how things went and I just bawled and tried to talk to him. I pretty much cried at least halfway home. Then I got home about 45 minutes ago and I cried on my mom for a while. This just sucks. Worst thing ever. I hate it. Like I didn't even know what to say half the time. Like I wish I could've been there for her like I could've been when we were together but I couldn't. And I feel like if she's not with me, she's going to pick someone again that is bad for her, which just kills me. Like I know I can't be her savior, but that doesn't mean I'm down with it. I told my best friend that it is like watching someone you love get a disease and go downhill, but you can't do a damn thing about it, and they barely even know what's wrong in the first place. This is just a really sucky situation that I hate. So much. The absolute last thing I ever wanted to do was to hurt her, and that's EXACTLY what happened tonight and I knew it was probably going to happen that way and I ☺☺☺☺ing hate it. Thanks for everyone that gave their input and prayers though. I really appreciate it.

OiBoyz · 10-20-2010, 02:22 AM

I'm sorry that you're feeling so badly. But I think you were right, even though it hurts.

**Josey Wales** · 10-20-2010, 07:37 AM

ok, i understand it hurts and all, and it will no doubt, for you and her... but she should have realized that what she was doing was hurting you. hopefully she will learn from this experience, and not do this the next time. and all you can do is just let it pass thats all you can do for the next few days, just get lost in the xbox, or something you see kills time for a week or so, and you'll see that what you did was the right thing.

Ethan.Bassist. · 10-20-2010, 10:17 AM

Yeah, I mean I knew the whole time it was the right thing. It just hurts so bad. I was talking to my mom when I got home last night and she was saying that if this hadn't happened, she would have still been hanging out with her ex. Sometimes, it's only under pain that people are compelled to change. I hope she does, I'll be praying for her.

**Josey Wales** · 10-20-2010, 10:28 AM

exactly dude.

***Art*** · 10-20-2010, 01:37 PM

I have been in a situation extremely close to yours more than once. It is so hard to deal with. My sympathies.