[mikegug]

Originally Posted by beanbag

i agree that that part is badly set up, but i think i understand what he was getting at. at least, i interpreted it in a way that makes sense to me. maybe the way i understand it isn't what he intended at all, but it should've been!

Yeah, the wedding thing seemed to be strange. I saw it as a "yeah. maybe that might be the case." Not a slam dunk, "OH YEAH! I get it now!" moment.

[Rainer.]

Originally Posted by beanbag

anyways. where i am going with this is: speaking as someone who hasn't dated but has been hopelessly in like (not love =)) with a couple of guys over her lifetime--you always carry that person with you. sure, they fade over time, but once you invest so much time and energy and emotion into them, even in a non-dating relationship, they sort of become part of you and memories surface periodically, sometimes at random. at least that was my experience. maybe i'm just a hopeless romantic and a sap and this doesn't happen to anyone else.

Yeah, it happens when I get lonely. I think it's less of an issue when you've finally found someone and start spending years and years together, those old things just fade away.

But when you're a lonely, restless twenty-something longing to be loved, memories of past cohorts, lovers, and near-lovers are definitely something that are gonna come up when you get into a sentimental mood...