[TylerGCA]

I have a friend that has Made a major turn around in her life in the past year or so....

I've only know her since september but she has told me quite a bit about herself haha. She is pretty cool and honest and stuff. She is a good friend.

Anyways a while back she was dating this guy and he was quite a jerk. Ive met him once or twice and i don't know him well...But she has told me quite a bit of stories about him.

Anyways they dated for like a year and a half....they were constantly breaking up and getting back together....it was a rough relationship apparently.

So they recently started dating again. I was curious so i asked her and she said they just felt like going out. I started to wonder if he has changed at all...but it kinda left my mind.

then the other day a friend asked me if they were dating, so i said yea. He said this dude got his step sister drunk and tricked her into a blowjob like a month or so ago...


I think she is making a mistake......I really don't want to see her get hurt.
keep in mind i have no romantic interest in her. She is a good friend.

I feel like i should say something...

should I? Something is telling me that i shouldn't....but i feel like should.

[OiBoyz]

He sounds lovely. I wonder if he has an older brother. [/sarcasm]

I don't know what you can tell her that she'll hear. Some people like the drama. You didn't mention the ages of the people involved, so perhaps my advice would be different if she's very young, but since it's only rumor/gossip, I'm not sure I'd get involved at all. Just be there as a friend if she needs you.

[gg7]

First of all, that may or may not be true. Don't jump to conclusions in case it's only a rumor. However, I'd say it's definitely worth looking into. IF the guy really did this, someone needs to know..as in parents, authorities, etc.

[PerishtheDay]

1. gossip is dangerous
2. the off and on rocky relationship is a clue
3. thats a pretty specific and believable story to be a rumor

i'd go to the guy, feel it out, and do some digging. if it turned out to be true or even extremely likely based on his character (come on, some guys do this ALL the time) then i'd tell my friend and come hell or high water do my very best to show her the guy is a total ☺☺☺☺☺☺. all of this on the condition that he's a ☺☺☺☺☺☺.

[Rainer.]

I think I'd just tread lightly on the issue. Keep in mind this is two other peoples' lives, and not yours.

Don't assume anything. Be honest with your friend. If you're worried about her, tell her you're worried about her. If you think she needs to be careful, tell her she needs to be careful.

But I might stop short of digging into things that are none of your business.

Really, she knows this guy a lot better than you do, and whether or not it's a terrible decision to date him, it's her decision to make. Just tell her how you feel, pray for her, and leave it at that.

[TylerGCA]

Thank you.

@rainer I've come too learn a lot of this stuff by just being in her life. I haven't been like doing a bunch of research other than going to the dudes facebook.

and im pretty sure that isn't just a rumor about my friends sister...just by analyzing the situation well i don't doubt it.

oh yea...she is 17. The guy is 18

[bobthecockroach]

The wrong dude? Who is the right dude?

[Big_al]

The OP, of course.