Ring questions

**The wirerat** · 11-13-2009, 03:20 PM

Now, before I get bombarded with PMs or what have you, I just have a few questions, my gf and I aren't getting engaged for at least a year and a half.
When I was working at the summer camp with her this past summer, we went to one of the local malls, and on a whim, she decided to go in and figure out what her ring size was. After we figured that out, we picked up a catalog and happened to be looking through it and she began pointing out rings she liked and stuff.
In order of her preference:
1. Heart ring
2. Double Heart Ring
3. Another Double Heart Ring

These are all very cheap rings, nothing insanely special in reference to the diamonds, their carats or what have you, but she seems to be happy with jewelry thats less gaudy. Maybe its how I was raised and the culture I've grown up in, but I see the engagement ring as something you agonize over, with diamond pricing, and grade, and carats and all this stuff...and she's picked out stuff that's less than $300 dollars. Why do I feel bad about thinking about getting any one of these rings?
Should I shop around, and look at a few traditional rings, or stick with the stuff she's pointed out and said she liked?

**RK_lover** · 11-13-2009, 03:43 PM

As long as she isn't specifically pointing out rings she doesn't like much because they're cheaper, I say go along with her wishes.

**bravesfan007** · 11-13-2009, 03:48 PM

If you have a problem with the price being so inexpensive you should speak up and tell her. I know when I was looking for a ring, Leigh Ann would choose things that were cheaper just because she didn't know the budget I had in mind. Once I told her a price range, she was more than happy to choose something a little more expensive. Your situation may be different though.

***Pauler*** · 11-13-2009, 04:35 PM

i agree w/ bravesfan007. think price second. make sure its something that she really wants (or something you know she really wants) and then look at the tag. my wife didnt want a wedding band. she only wears the one ring as the band is a bit thicker...so that is another thing to think about...if she wants a band or just one ring.

rock_show_host · 11-13-2009, 05:35 PM

Others have already given good advice. Be honest about your concerns, but at the end of the day, buy her the ring she will most want to wear, even if it feels cheap or lackluster to you.

Of course, if you feel you have a good sense of her tastes, you can probably find a way to incorporate a surprise touch or two that she won't be expecting.

OiBoyz · 11-13-2009, 06:28 PM

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Originally Posted by bravesfan007

If you have a problem with the price being so inexpensive you should speak up and tell her. I know when I was looking for a ring, Leigh Ann would choose things that were cheaper just because she didn't know the budget I had in mind. Once I told her a price range, she was more than happy to choose something a little more expensive. Your situation may be different though.

What he said. If she's just picking them because they're less expensive, let her know what price range you're thinking of. If it's just the matter that she really likes those rings, then I'd say get her what she likes.

It might be she's a girl who's not into all that silly Bridezilla froo froo stuff.

Gods*Armygirl · 11-13-2009, 06:39 PM

Be lucky she's not one of those girls who wants the most expensive thing she sees.

I say get her what makes her happy. If she's happy with something cheaper that's fine. I have a feeling she's a girl who would be more happy to have the surprise of a ring she loves than be wowed by how much you paid for it. You have a good idea of what she wants, so like rock_show said, you can always find something more expensive with the look she wants, because she'll probably be surprised to see something she loves that you picked out yourself than something she's been looking at herself (unless she really had her heart set on it). If you're going to shop around, try to fit it in with her taste and not just something traditional. I think she's trying to hint to you what she wants, so I'd go with what she wants.

Talk to her about it if it still bothers you.

OiBoyz · 11-13-2009, 07:23 PM

Also... I'd say she likes hearts. Just a wild guess.

**The wirerat** · 11-13-2009, 09:23 PM

Yeah she does like hearts. I guess maybe I put too much stock into the actual ring, rather than what it signifies. I'm perfectly happy is that's what she truly wants...because its affordable and I don't have to sell out my firstborn because she wants the most expensive ring ever. Personally I think girls like that aren't worth it...but hey that's me.
If I find a heart design similar, that maybe has a surprise or two along with it, I think I would go for it.
Thanks for the advice.