[Kentl]

Well here is some back story; there is a girl who I’ve liked since I’ve been here, some six years ago. We have become way more then just friends, I now consider her a sister. I’ve long since given up on ever being together, but I still will be there for her as long as I can.
She has gotten with this guy an older guy (by about two years) and well she says she loves him, because they kissed last Sunday for the first time that might not seem so bad, but a big problem is they are not together at all.
She believes that he has broken up with his girl friend but the day of that kiss, not even like three hours before he was talking about his girl friend. Now this is the type of guy who very well might have broken up to get with her (which is still wrong) but I don’t know if he did or not but she believes him.
She thinks he is so nice, she is blind to what he has done one day she says “he is a jerk” the next “well he is nice to me”
Anyways she has been talking about him to me and ive been saying stuff like “yeah” “sure” “go on” and you know trying to not say anything.
But I think I should tell her how I feel but I don’t know how to handle this do I tell her how I feel about this guy? (that he will just hurt her)
Should I try and find out if he did break up with his girl friend or if he lied?
And should I tell her if he did or not
Or should I just stay out of it?

I don’t know will I make things worse for her?

Most of the time this would be easy but my feeling for her are blocking my judgment.
And well with all that is going on, I know I am not in my best part of mind, so I need someone who is and knows what to do because I don’t.

[Pre-Ex-Girlfriend]

Well, I do think you should say something (other than just "yeah, sure, go on.."). However, I don't know if you need to say something so vague as "he will just hurt you." After all, that is just your opinion. What might be better is to just tell her the facts - the things you've heard him say or do when she's not around (like talking about his girlfriend). Don't just tell her "he's no good," give her examples of it. Hopefully she'll be able to see and decide for herself that he is no good.

As for making things worse for her... It may be worse now, but in the long run it sounds like it might be worse if you don't tell her.

[earlessdog]

Originally Posted by Pre-Ex-Girlfriend

Well, I do think you should say something (other than just "yeah, sure, go on.."). However, I don't know if you need to say something so vague as "he will just hurt you." After all, that is just your opinion. What might be better is to just tell her the facts - the things you've heard him say or do when she's not around (like talking about his girlfriend). Don't just tell her "he's no good," give her examples of it. Hopefully she'll be able to see and decide for herself that he is no good.

As for making things worse for her... It may be worse now, but in the long run it sounds like it might be worse if you don't tell her.

I concur.