Promise ring anyone?

TaiLova · 08-26-2009, 11:50 AM

I didn't know where to put this post so I decided here would be a nice place

Anyways onto the matter I was wondering what were your opinions on promise rings.

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 2.08333333 years (2 years 1 month) now, and I plan to propose to her within the next 6 months (SOONer than later since we already have the ring on layaway and all I have to do now is select a stone).

So I was thinking I would go out and buy her a promise ring to kind of through her off (timing wise). But I just don't know what a promise ring would do and again I wanted to know what others thought about promise rings.

So have at thee!

**Rainer.** · 08-26-2009, 11:54 AM

I don't get the point, if you're just gonna propose to her within the next 6 months, anyway...

**thesteve** · 08-26-2009, 12:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Rainer.

I don't get the point, if you're just gonna propose to her within the next 6 months, anyway...

+1 waste of money.

**Skeeter** · 08-26-2009, 12:21 PM

Really no point. Especially since your main reason to do so is to "throw her off." Complete waste of time and money.

Ax · 08-26-2009, 12:45 PM

fourthed.

**Thrash** · 08-26-2009, 12:51 PM

I agree.. Fifthed.

Big waste of money. I am just now starting to save up for a ring and there is now way i would throw down another hundred or so for pretty much no reason,...
And the good promise rings are much more expensive than that. One of my friends got his girlfriend a six hundred dollar ring... Stoopid!

**slap_j** · 08-26-2009, 12:58 PM

There's nothing wrong with a ring as a gift if you want to look at it that way. But since she's about to get two rings from you (engagement and wedding) maybe look at some tennis bracelets or earrings.

But I'm not a girl and I don't wear jewelry so what do I know?

OiBoyz · 08-26-2009, 12:59 PM

Take the money you were going to put on the promise ring toward the actual ring.

I never understood the purpose of a promise ring. I think it's an invention of the jewelry industry to sell more stuff.

**Epaphras** · 08-26-2009, 01:00 PM

I gave my wife a promise ring for Christmas 2005. We had been together for over a year and a half at that point. We didn't get engaged until February 2007 and our wedding was in May 2008.

For your situation, I sixth what has been said about it being needless. It sounds like she knows about the engagement ring on layaway (?) anyway, so there really is no point.

**slap_j** · 08-26-2009, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by OiBoyz

I never understood the purpose of a promise ring.

From ye olde Wikipedia:

Promise rings date back to the 16th century. Traditionally, the ring is called a "friendship ring" when there is no promise to marry and a "promise ring" when there is a promise to marry. Illustrations show that friendship rings were given as early as 1576 CE. In those days, when a man could not afford to get married, he would often buy a promise ring as a placeholder until such time he would be able to effectuate a marriage.

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I think it's an invention of the jewelry industry to sell more stuff.

It's actually the "double-ring ceremony" (where both partners wear a wedding band) that was marketed by the jewelery industry. Not promise rings.

**Thrash** · 08-26-2009, 01:25 PM

i dont mean to hijack the thread, but I have been confused about this for a loooong time: so, the engagement ring and the wedding ring are two seperate rings?
Or is it okay to use the wedding ring for the engagement? Or does the desire to do this make me really cheap?
It just seems like i am going to be putting down a whole doodoo load of money.
I was planning on spending around a grand for the wedding ring, but who knows how badly torn my budget will be if i have to buy another ring...

**slap_j** · 08-26-2009, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Thrash

so, the engagement ring and the wedding ring are two seperate rings?

Yes.

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Or is it okay to use the wedding ring for the engagement?

Whatever you want to do is okay. It's your wedding.

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Or does the desire to do this make me really cheap?

No.

**thesteve** · 08-26-2009, 01:35 PM

When I bought my wife's engagement ring, it came with a shadow band that would be added at the wedding. most of the time she just wears her engagement ring without the shadow band. A lot of women don't wear their wedding ring/band opting for the (typically fancier) engagement ring.

TaiLova · 08-26-2009, 01:45 PM

LOL. Well you all win, I'm making a promise ring out of a twistie tie

. Thanks for all the input everyone.

**Skeeter** · 08-26-2009, 01:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Thrash

i dont mean to hijack the thread, but I have been confused about this for a loooong time: so, the engagement ring and the wedding ring are two seperate rings?
Or is it okay to use the wedding ring for the engagement? Or does the desire to do this make me really cheap?
It just seems like i am going to be putting down a whole doodoo load of money.
I was planning on spending around a grand for the wedding ring, but who knows how badly torn my budget will be if i have to buy another ring...

My wife and I decided that she would just wear her engagement ring as her wedding ring. It's a unique design that wouldn't look all that good with another ring paired with it.