needs help

OnlyTroughHim · 07-29-2009, 12:16 AM

Well, as you may know I'm only 15 but i have a girlfriend. Well we have only been going out for about 2 weeks and I'm really not attract to her and I don't think I am ready for a relationship and stuff. I just don't know how to tell her without hurting her feelings. I really hate it when i make people cry so please help!!

Thanks,
Justin

rock_show_host · 07-29-2009, 12:20 AM

Just tell her. You probably will hurt her feelings, but that can't always be helped. We're emotional people, and relationships are a messy business sometimes.

But look at it this way -- the longer you wait, the more it's going to hurt when you finally do tell her. Just bite the bullet and do it, and be straightforward and honest. You're both young, and it's only been two weeks. She'll move on.

6strings21frets · 07-29-2009, 01:12 AM

I agree. Perhaps you should just stay as close friends before you move onto a relationship.

OiBoyz · 07-29-2009, 01:40 AM

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Originally Posted by OnlyTroughHim

I'm really not attract to her

Good heavens, don't say that to her! That will make her feel horrible about herself.

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I don't think I am ready for a relationship and stuff.

That's what I'd tell her. You're only 15. There's plenty of other things you should be doing now.

**MtlMom** · 07-29-2009, 07:28 AM

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Originally Posted by OiBoyz

Good heavens, don't say that to her! That will make her feel horrible about herself.

That's what I'd tell her. You're only 15. There's plenty of other things you should be doing now.

I agree. Make sure that you don't make it about her. Just own it. I'm impressed that you recognize that you aren't ready for a relationship - that shows a lot more maturity than pretending that you are.

AlphaSigma · 07-29-2009, 10:19 AM

Agreed do it now, don't wait and tell her that you aren't ready.

SccHarpGirl · 07-29-2009, 01:20 PM

I agree with the other posters. I think you're wise in waiting to date, and that should be what you tell her: That you aren't ready/mature enough to handle a relationship right now, and while you think she's awesome, being in a relationship is not right for you.

Yes, she'll probably be hurt. And she might cry. But it will be so much better to do it now, rather than months down the line.