[GuitarKid916]

Originally Posted by OiBoyz

Nope. Not even close to what I thought when I read your post.

well when it was my facebook status people thought it was deep.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by GuitarKid916

well when it was my facebook status people thought it was deep.

facebook status and people's opinions on it do not make a shallow sentiment deep. It was basically:
I didn't see this breakup coming, but I have too much on my mind to express.

Whether something is or is not deep is not the point. Generally speaking, things which are deep are profound and not obvious. What you are experiencing is something that a lot of people, dare I say, the vast majority, end up experiencing. That does not mean it hurts less or is anything less important to you.

I have been watching this thread, and I suggest trying to stay out of the romance game for awhile. I also wouldnt rule out all scouts in the future either. My wife swore when she was about your age that she would never marry a guy who played guitar. Look what happened to her... I build and repair guitars, own around 30, and play a lot. There is a lot to staying out of the game as long as you can and not trying to have a boyfriend to do stuff with on saturdays.

I want to echo what crazymoose said.

Originally Posted by crazymoose

I think a lot of times the problem with highschool relationships is that when people come to an obstacle, they don't overcome it. They give up. Love is never going to work out perfectly and there's always going to be things you have to get around or overcome to make it work.

That is true. I have been married a little over 4 years now. Marriage is not about smooth sailing most of the time. Its about solving problems together. Love never gives up. Love keeps on getting back up, dusting itself off and entering the fray for another round.

In life there are always going to be things sucking time. You think scouts is bad, try a full time job and ministry, or worse yet, a couple part time jobs, full time grad school and a couple ministries and her full time job. That is my wife and I's life. I am trying to restructure my life to take up less time, but think about it, it does not slow down from scouts. It speeds way the heck up.

[bravesfan007]

Originally Posted by GuitarKid916

so you posting that, was that suppose to hurt me?

Nope. See Art's post. (Even though you have already seen it).

Originally Posted by Art

I'll save you the time of waiting for him to answer. No. Absolutely not.

[GuitarKid916]

Originally Posted by Billgamesh

facebook status and people's opinions on it do not make a shallow sentiment deep. It was basically:
I didn't see this breakup coming, but I have too much on my mind to express.

Whether something is or is not deep is not the point. Generally speaking, things which are deep are profound and not obvious. What you are experiencing is something that a lot of people, dare I say, the vast majority, end up experiencing. That does not mean it hurts less or is anything less important to you.

I have been watching this thread, and I suggest trying to stay out of the romance game for awhile. I also wouldnt rule out all scouts in the future either. My wife swore when she was about your age that she would never marry a guy who played guitar. Look what happened to her... I build and repair guitars, own around 30, and play a lot. There is a lot to staying out of the game as long as you can and not trying to have a boyfriend to do stuff with on saturdays.

You are right. Now that I think about it, I'll steer clear from dating for awhile. I'll only uliminate dating scouts if God says too.

I want to echo what crazymoose said.



That is true. I have been married a little over 4 years now. Marriage is not about smooth sailing most of the time. Its about solving problems together. Love never gives up. Love keeps on getting back up, dusting itself off and entering the fray for another round.

In life there are always going to be things sucking time. You think scouts is bad, try a full time job and ministry, or worse yet, a couple part time jobs, full time grad school and a couple ministries and her full time job. That is my wife and I's life. I am trying to restructure my life to take up less time, but think about it, it does not slow down from scouts. It speeds way the heck up.

You're right again. It must be hard to be in a relationship like that, especially since it's a marriage. Thanks for making me think a little.

[GuitarKid916]

Originally Posted by bravesfan007

Nope. See Art's post. (Even though you have already seen it).

Haha ok. It had been a rough week, and I sometimes take things way outta context.

[LIVEband]

I can realte to this situation kinda, but from a slightly different perspective.

Im a Colonel in AFJROTC, and have command of 250 cadets spanning two campuses. I have to run both units and manage a staff of thirty five people fighting with each other to one day have my job. It takes a lot of time to do what I do correctly. It has hurt me deeply in a relationship I was in with a wonderful girl. She didnt like how I had to be involved in absolutely everything that goes on. Or how when I came to a game of hers i was in uniform or we would go someplace and one of my men would go "Hey boss whats up?" I tried to work around what i could to make more time for her but couldnt. So she broke up with me.

I guess what im trying to say is, it happens. And what for your situation is the Boy scouts or for me was ROTC, could be anything. Sports, Homework, friends, even church can take up the majority of someones time and hurt their relationships. So dont blame boy scouts or anyone else. It may just not have been able to work out unfortunately.


I leave you however, with this one thought. And I draw it from my situation. If she had asked me to I would have resigned, and spent more time with her. Here is my question for you.

Did you ask him to try and make more time for you?
The answer to that question, and if the answer is yes then also his actions in response to you asking him, show how much effort you put into the problem as a couple. And it has already been said in this thread, that marriage, and in my opinion all relationships, are about overcoming obstacles together. For two people in a relationship trying to solve problems on their own are two people. But two people working together to solve a problem are a team.

[4of5Rocker]

Originally Posted by GuitarKid916

Hi I just wanted to share how I am feeling right now. I know, that somethings always going to get in the way. I am not stupid. I shared this on everything else I am on. So yeah.

Including CTF, this is the second time I've read this.

It's still sad.