[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by fenderguy962

True, but I would think it kind of matters on what you are having sex for. I would think that since sex was created to be between a married couple as a show of love, the closer you are to be a married couple (the deeper your relationship is) the desire to show love through sex could become stronger.

This was absolutely my experience and it gets harder and harder as time goes by. However, you can make it in a relationship. However, I think this is the way it was designed to be or we would not usually break familial bonds and cling to our wives.

What I meant was I would be less likely to look at that person as simply a way to release sexual tension.

I totally understand what you mean and I think in a sense, you are right. I can't think of a way to word it as nicely as you, but using someone for sex, the urge goes down as you get to caring about them as an individual I think. However, the tricky flip side is that the desire for intimacy can go up, which is where Rainer's scenario comes in. So there is a degree of getting to know someone that gets you to acting like a decent human being to them, where you care about them, and then there is the desire for intimacy. (My point in mentioning we act like a decent human being is that when we desire someone just to satiate our lusts we are acting in a supremely selfish and base way.)

So you always walk a fine line.

But then maybe I'm wrong. I don't know. I don't really have any experience in this field, and am pretty much geussing. I would like to hear what some others think about this. So, please tell me if I am wrong.

Nah, sounds right pretty much with a few extra variables thrown in.

[LIVEband]

haha this is not a cookie cutter answer, becasue motive and motivation are huge factors, and vary from person to person and situation to situation.

I can look at a girl and like her instantly based on her actions just as easily as her looks. If shes smiling and laughing she obviously has a sense of humor. I can develop a crush based on that. But thats b/c im not worried about getting in anyones pants. And others may not be able to say the same.