[redbaron]

Indeed, and just to derail this thread more...

All through highschool I fought my parents tooth and nail on all kinds of stuff (mostly on school) and things sucked.

The longer I've been out of their house (now 7+ years) the more of an adult friendship I've built with them and it's truly awesome. It's funny that now that they can't tell me what I should be doing with my life, I actually value getting their advice & perspective.

Parents only seem as dumb as we think they are, when we finally stop being idiots, they all of a sudden get smarter.

[beanbag]

Originally Posted by redbaron

Indeed, and just to derail this thread more...

All through highschool I fought my parents tooth and nail on all kinds of stuff (mostly on school) and things sucked.

The longer I've been out of their house (now 7+ years) the more of an adult friendship I've built with them and it's truly awesome. It's funny that now that they can't tell me what I should be doing with my life, I actually value getting their advice & perspective.

Parents only seem as dumb as we think they are, when we finally stop being idiots, they all of a sudden get smarter.

this is so true! I still live with my parents, but I have claimed some degree of independence by virtue of my bachelor's degree (which I earned living away from home) and a smattering of silver hair strands and now during these times when it would be really useful for them to just issue orders and decrees about my life (so that I won't have to make any decisions) they say, "well honey, you're an adult. I'll tell you that I like/don't like this idea, but the final decision is yours."

it's so maddening! I wish that my dad could just say "you cannot do this" or "you must do this" to take the pressure of decision-making off of me, but it just doesn't work that way.

darn being an adult! it's way overrated!

[Kentl]

Originally Posted by jthomas1600

I cut this out of a longer post just to say it cracked me up when I read it. I don't have a real good grasp on sentence structure I suppose, so maybe this is clearer to others....but are the parents teaching the kids how to live or are the kids teaching the parents how to live? This would not have struck me as funny if not for the context of this thread of course. While age does not guarantee wisdom, it is a big piece of the equation.

I've got a general question too. Why is it that people ask for advise and opinions and then want to dismiss anything they don't like. If your mind is made up and you're not open to other ideas don't waste everyone's time. Just my 2 cents.

I never asked for advice here in this thread (you should read it i am not asking for advice)
And all of you agree but not all parents world wide my family my pastor my church and I can name a lot more

And remember just because every one says it dose not mean it is true
And all of you seem to think I am not obeying my parents I am
They believe by the time you are a teen you need to start learning by yourself and the only step in when they have to
So it is not just me

[Kentl]

Originally Posted by beanbag

this is so true! I still live with my parents, but I have claimed some degree of independence by virtue of my bachelor's degree (which I earned living away from home) and a smattering of silver hair strands and now during these times when it would be really useful for them to just issue orders and decrees about my life (so that I won't have to make any decisions) they say, "well honey, you're an adult. I'll tell you that I like/don't like this idea, but the final decision is yours."

it's so maddening! I wish that my dad could just say "you cannot do this" or "you must do this" to take the pressure of decision-making off of me, but it just doesn't work that way.

darn being an adult! it's way overrated!

To me that is just being lazy (wishing some one else should make decisions) I am lucky I hate when someone trys to tell ,me what to do if I make a wrong choice I will deal with it
My parents don’t help me with my problems unless it is real bad
(Girl friends what I should do when it comes to a friend ect they stay out of)
And If I go out as long as I tell them they are okay
In my church I am consider an adult so my family goes along with it
I don’t know why you would want some one else to decide for you to me that is like saying you cant take care of yourself (which is why I hate it)
And being human is overrated

[Kentl]

Originally Posted by redbaron

Indeed, and just to derail this thread more...

All through highschool I fought my parents tooth and nail on all kinds of stuff (mostly on school) and things sucked.

The longer I've been out of their house (now 7+ years) the more of an adult friendship I've built with them and it's truly awesome. It's funny that now that they can't tell me what I should be doing with my life, I actually value getting their advice & perspective.

Parents only seem as dumb as we think they are, when we finally stop being idiots, they all of a sudden get smarter.

As my parents say all parents are dumb all humans are dumb
It is dumb to fall in love when you know you might get hurt it is dumb to want to grow up it is dumb to think you are wise because of age
it is dumb to be human
my parnets are the best and i whold not trade them for the world

[beanbag]

Originally Posted by Kentl

To me that is just being lazy (wishing some one else should make decisions) I am lucky I hate when someone trys to tell ,me what to do if I make a wrong choice I will deal with it
My parents don’t help me with my problems unless it is real bad
(Girl friends what I should do when it comes to a friend ect they stay out of)
And If I go out as long as I tell them they are okay
In my church I am consider an adult so my family goes along with it
I don’t know why you would want some one else to decide for you to me that is like saying you cant take care of yourself (which is why I hate it)
And being human is overrated

you have NO idea what lazy is. really. I could list all of my accomplishments beginning from when I was younger than you, but you know what...I am not the sum of my accomplishments and I don't have to explain myself to you.

suffice it to say, when you are my age you will wish you didn't have to make all your own decisions and shoulder all of your own responsibilities. you have NO idea how lucky you are to be a kid right now.

[Kentl]

Originally Posted by beanbag

you have NO idea what lazy is. really. I could list all of my accomplishments beginning from when I was younger than you, but you know what...I am not the sum of my accomplishments and I don't have to explain myself to you.

suffice it to say, when you are my age you will wish you didn't have to make all your own decisions and shoulder all of your own responsibilities. you have NO idea how lucky you are to be a kid right now.

Why not make you own choices if you don’t it is not your life
And my sis is your age and she Is glad that my parents rose us this way
That is the problem with a lot of adults and humans in general they think just because it happened to them it will be like that forever one else
You since when you grew you wished you parents made your decisions so in fact it has to be that way with me?
Since you dated as a teen and it messed up it happing like that to every one since you
That is why no one should take advice from some one unless they want to because evry one is deferment

[mulletman]

Originally Posted by Kentl

That is why no one should take advice from some one unless they want to because evry one is deferment

This statement is completely insane.

[Kentl]

Originally Posted by The Phantom Mullet

This statement is completely insane.

You have to take everything I said in a count don’t go blind in just because someone gives you advice
Some one could say go kill yourself should I just because they are wiser?
If some one says I should start to go on diet do I have to take that advice?
I ask advice on here to hear every choice I have then I decide for my self
becuse it is my life i have to make the choice and i have to deal with The way it ends
That is what being wise is you don’t block every one out I will not just say go away when someone says there is no god just so I can understand both sides maybe you should start to do that
Look at it from both sides not just the way you believe but from others to

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by Kentl

As my parents say all parents are dumb all humans are dumb
It is dumb to fall in love when you know you might get hurt it is dumb to want to grow up it is dumb to think you are wise because of age
it is dumb to be human
my parnets are the best and i whold not trade them for the world

Only a fool believes all humans are dumb, because they then miss the ones far wiser than they. And I know wise men and women. If you do not recognize this, you go through life assuming you are the greatest source of wisdom and that is arrogance and folly.

Kentl, I am closing this thread, could you please not go through trying to be the worlds authority on why nobody knows anything? It is more than obnoxious, egomaniacal, and will cause nobody in life to ever take you seriously, for very good reason.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by The Phantom Mullet

This statement is completely insane.

Agreed.