[Giga Hertz]

So I recently found out I have a crush on this girl... who's in the year/grade above me. Problem is, I don't know her all that well (I know a bit about her, and that she's a Christian) and I only get to say "Hi" to her in the hallways between classes.

I really would like to go out with her, and I know that she really is nice... but I don't know much about her. At the least, I'd like to get to know her more and be a good friend.

So do you guys have any advice or opinions?

The other day, I did actually manage to catch her after one of my classes and we had a short conversation, and I thought that was pretty cool. Is trying to catch her before/after classes the best way to go about it?

Thanks.

[Rainer.]

Why do you want to go out with her? You don't even really know her.

Anyway, just realize that you have a crush, as in you like her for no good reason yet, and talk to her. Get to know her as a friend. If you don't talk to her, then you'll never really get to know her.

[Giga Hertz]

I know. That's why I labelled it a "problem". :P

I look forward to getting to know her. The problem is how I go about trying to talk to her....

[Rainer.]

Originally Posted by Giga Hertz

I know. That's why I labelled it a "problem". :P

I look forward to getting to know her. The problem is how I go about trying to talk to her....

Try starting out with:

"Hi."


And see where things go from there.

[Giga Hertz]

Originally Posted by Rainer.

Try starting out with:

"Hi."


And see where things go from there.

Way ahead of ya. :P

The other day, God so blessed me as to catch her walking on her own down the hall, and we managed to kick up a conversation.

That was two days ago and I haven't gotten a chance like that to talk to her since...

[WorshipJesus]

Originally Posted by Giga Hertz

Way ahead of ya. :P

The other day, God so blessed me as to catch her walking on her own down the hall, and we managed to kick up a conversation.

That was two days ago and I haven't gotten a chance like that to talk to her since...

Rainer is right.. you should talk to her to get to know her better. My advice would be to get to know her as a friend first and foremost. Pray about God would have you to do and consider your life (remember that dating should be about getting ready for marriage): are you able to support her financially on your own? are you able to lead her spiritually? are you able to take care of her? etc..

As a preacher once said, (paraphrasing) "If your dad is still paying for your car insurance, you aren't ready to be in a relationship with a girl."

Just keep it to friends for awhile. Dating tends to make people put on a mask to pretend to be better than they actually are. Being friends can give each of you a better chance to see what the other person is actually like..

pray pray pray pray pray!!

[DaGeek]

Originally Posted by Giga Hertz

Way ahead of ya. :P

The other day, God so blessed me as to catch her walking on her own down the hall, and we managed to kick up a conversation.

That was two days ago and I haven't gotten a chance like that to talk to her since...

It's really not as big a problem as you may think . Like Rainer said, just start with the basics and work your way up. You're probably not going to talk to a new non-female friend every day, so don't expect to talk to this girl every day at first either. Let it develop over time, have patience, and just have fun seeing where it goes. And praying about it won't hurt .

[Giga Hertz]

Originally Posted by DaGeek

It's really not as big a problem as you may think . Like Rainer said, just start with the basics and work your way up. You're probably not going to talk to a new non-female friend every day, so don't expect to talk to this girl every day at first either. Let it develop over time, have patience, and just have fun seeing where it goes. And praying about it won't hurt .

That's for sure. Been doing that sinceI started. :P

But thanks guys, it's been a real help.

[OiBoyz]

Originally Posted by Giga Hertz

Is trying to catch her before/after classes the best way to go about it?

If that's the only place your paths cross, I guess that's where you try to talk to her. Anything else (like just showing up at her church, or following her home) would just be creepy.

[Giga Hertz]

Originally Posted by OiBoyz

If that's the only place your paths cross, I guess that's where you try to talk to her. Anything else (like just showing up at her church, or following her home) would just be creepy.

Definitely. Besides, she doesn't go to Church often cos the two her family go/went to got bad (I'm trying to invite her to my Church). And she's a 30 minute drive from where I live anyways so.... :P

I try to catch her after classes but so far it's worked out more that God seems to put her in my path other ways. :P

[OiBoyz]

You don't say how old you are, but if your parents let you do youth type activities, definitely invite her to some fun group activity. You can get to know her a little better, and it's a more safe environment for both of you.

[Giga Hertz]

I'm almost 17 and she's almost 18. There's a few youth groups around town, but I go to our cell group on Friday nights. It'd be a bit awkward to ask her to that because she wouldn't know anyone else and between my sister and one of our cell leaders, she'd be one of three girls.

[OiBoyz]

You might be surprised. She might like to go with you.

[Giga Hertz]

Originally Posted by OiBoyz

You might be surprised. She might like to go with you.

True that. Ah well, still trying to get my friendship a bit more firm with her first.

Why can't it be as easy as on Sims? :P

[OiBoyz]

And you know, the problem of her not knowing anyone else will only be a problem the first time. After that, she'll get to know the others too. And if she's not going to church, maybe she'd enjoy the fellowship with everyone else.