[conceived in fire]

(I don't know if this should actually go in Dating and Relationships instead....)

Here's the deal. I've been friends with this girl for quite a while (over 2 years). There was a time when I thought that I liked her, but I luckily didn't act on it in any way. She knows I think she's pretty, but I only admitted to liking her loongggggg after the fact.

Lately we've been hanging out a little more often than usual, and I'm beginning to get those feelings again. Now, before I go further, I should say why I'm hesitant to act at all: every time I can remember telling a girl I liked her (this one's the exception), the relationship has gone sour. Most of the time it's been my fault - I overreact to something or say something stupid - but the last time, the girl inexplicably took me stopped talking to me, took me off her facebook friends (she lives in another state) and hasn't talked to me since. Even then, I only told her after the fact.

I'm going to wait till around September, and if I still feel that way, I'll ask her out. If she says yes, we'll have a decent amount of time before I start attending college in another state. If she says no and the relationship possibly goes sour (asking her out almost seems like asking for that), then I'll just be waiting those same 4 months or so till I can make new friends at college.

Chances are, I won't feel the same way in several months, but if I do, is that a stupid plan?

Closing because I might have changed my mind already and don't really want advice...message me if you want but this is sort of a closed issue.

[Kentl]

Originally Posted by conceived in fire

(I don't know if this should actually go in Dating and Relationships instead....)

Here's the deal. I've been friends with this girl for quite a while (over 2 years). There was a time when I thought that I liked her, but I luckily didn't act on it in any way. She knows I think she's pretty, but I only admitted to liking her loongggggg after the fact.

Lately we've been hanging out a little more often than usual, and I'm beginning to get those feelings again. Now, before I go further, I should say why I'm hesitant to act at all: every time I can remember telling a girl I liked her (this one's the exception), the relationship has gone sour. Most of the time it's been my fault - I overreact to something or say something stupid - but the last time, the girl inexplicably took me stopped talking to me, took me off her facebook friends (she lives in another state) and hasn't talked to me since. Even then, I only told her after the fact.

I'm going to wait till around September, and if I still feel that way, I'll ask her out. If she says yes, we'll have a decent amount of time before I start attending college in another state. If she says no and the relationship possibly goes sour (asking her out almost seems like asking for that), then I'll just be waiting those same 4 months or so till I can make new friends at college.

Chances are, I won't feel the same way in several months, but if I do, is that a stupid plan?

Dude I don’t think that is right
Because even if she says yes when you move you are just going to leave her (can she\will she follow you?)
Find out because if it is no then I think it is dumb to try
also never judge a girl by the ones you dated before it just dose not end well
it is sad when a 14 year old knows this

[Rainer.]

Doubting your future commitment is not a good way to start a relationship.

Make it an LDR, and you've intensified that to a big degree.

However, I would caution you, because this is a critical time in your life, where you are on the boundary between being in one place and being in another. Bringing a relationship into it will complicate matters, when things might already seem complicated.