[tmlfan123]

I was very bored at work today and my mind started to wander. This is what it came up with:

Do you need to find someone physically attractive to date/marry them?

If so, where would looks rank on a list of qualities you want in a partner? As in:
1. Christian
2. Intelligent
3. Good-looking
4. Mature
...

Thoughts?

[RK_lover]

I couldn't date/marry someone I didn't find physically attractive...it would end up being the same as a close friendship.

[slap_j]

Mature? Haha. Like a May-December romance or something?

Anyway, I think making a list is coming at it from the wrong angle. Sure, one can point to various characteristics that are rated as being more attractive than others (certain ratios, symmetry, etc.) but the ultimately the nature of physical attraction is necessarily first person (hence the famous idiom about beauty being in the eye of the beholder). But more than that, it's private as well. And by that I mean that it doesn't translate. But I think it's part and parcel to a romantic relationship. I can't imagine that you could devote so much to someone and not find them physically attractive as well unless you're asexual or something.

[rock_show_host]

Originally Posted by RK_lover

I couldn't date/marry someone I didn't find physically attractive...it would end up being the same as a close friendship.

Same. Given the Bible's attitude toward marital sex, I'd say mutual attraction is pretty important.

[Rainer.]

No, it's not the most important thing, but just naturally, I think I'd date and marry someone I found physically attractive.

[TahoeJeff]

yes.

[Ax]

I honestly don't know how a relationship where you weren't attracted to each other would work.

[sshsguitarist21]

Yeah, pretty much what everyone else said. Physical attraction is necessary in the relationship, but shouldn't be the top priority of the relationship.

[Iceman-bass14]

Yes,it is necessary.

[bravesfan007]

I think it's necessary, but in a different way. I am still trying to formulate my words to describe this. I'll post back when I find them.

[redbaron]

I think it's important, but a lot of people you might not have found especially attractive when you first meet them become so after you become friends, so I think it's something that can develop over time.

[Butterfly16]

I think it's involved to a certain extent.

I think in some cases (not all) it's the physical attraction that first sparks you to like someone (right or wrong). I think once you start dating that kinda becomes less important as you form more emotional bonds/connections to the person. I think as your relationship with a person changes your priorites and what you hold to be most important might change too. The more time you spend with someone the more you learn about who they really are.

... But it's different for everybody

[Skeeter]

Physical attraction is certainly necessary.

However, I know for a fact that my wife didn't find me especially attractive when we first met. A few years later, however, and we started dating and she certainly found me attractive (I admit that I found her attractive right from when I first met her). Sometimes, the more you get to know someone, the more attracted to them you become.

[tmlfan123]

But let's face it, there are some really ugly people out there. Do their spouses actually find them attractive? Or are they looking past it?

[Kentl]

Originally Posted by tmlfan123

But let's face it, there are some really ugly people out there. Do their spouses actually find them attractive? Or are they looking past it?

Love is like a butterfly some thing they are beautiful others think they are ugly
So what you think is ugly others find hot
Just because you think they are dose not mean every one dose