Is an engaged woman (or man) fair game?

Novan_Leon · 05-13-2009, 05:16 PM

Simple question. Yes, no, or does it depend on the situation?

Some background particular to this situation:

Both the pursuer and the pursued are devout Christians.
Both parties have known each other for many years.

LesPaulPlayer · 05-13-2009, 05:31 PM

you mean can you ask her on a date or something like that?

I would say no, thats a huge disrespect to the man and I think it's pretty low

fenderguy962 · 05-13-2009, 05:36 PM

^ I'm with Brett

k-lub242 · 05-13-2009, 05:37 PM

I would say no way. Unless you have a really strong belief God's got some hand in this and you've prayed with other people and they've confirmed that (if God did decide to do that) then that seems pretty... cheap. The person's already said they've committed the rest of their life to someone else. That's not the time to try to change their mind, not at all.

gg7 · 05-13-2009, 08:16 PM

No.

guitarman531 · 05-13-2009, 08:37 PM

Nope.

Nate · 05-13-2009, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Novan_Leon

Simple question. Yes, no, or does it depend on the situation?

Some background particular to this situation:

Both the pursuer and the pursued are devout Christians.
Both parties have known each other for many years.

Try this: Ask her fiance.

Presumably, if she were interested in pursuing another relationship, she would not be engaged. If she is still engaged and interested / looking to pursue a relationship with someone other than her betrothed, she's not the type of woman you should want to be involved with, I don't think.

TunerSteve · 05-13-2009, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Nate

Try this: Ask her fiance.

Presumably, if she were interested in pursuing another relationship, she would not be engaged. If she is still engaged and interested / looking to pursue a relationship with someone other than her betrothed, she's not the type of woman you should want to be involved with, I don't think.

Exactly.

A betrothal is already a commitment and the marriage ceremony caps the process. If someone is engaged, they are off limits.

**RK_lover** · 05-13-2009, 10:06 PM

Engaged literally means involved with/in...so I'd agree with everyone else and say no.

Napoleon17 · 05-13-2009, 10:39 PM

I happen to disagree with everyone else. It depends. If a woman is engaged, and is having second thoughts, and is in a position where she would even think about breaking it off, then yes, she is fair game. If everything is going along great, and she is completely committed to her fiance, then I think it would be lame to try to wreck everything.

But the bottom line is this: they aren't married. They are both fair game.

**RK_lover** · 05-13-2009, 10:41 PM

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Originally Posted by Napoleon17

I happen to disagree with everyone else. It depends. If a woman is engaged, and is having second thoughts, and is in a position where she would even think about breaking it off, then yes, she is fair game. If everything is going along great, and she is completely committed to her fiance, then I think it would be lame to try to wreck everything.

Shouldn't she break it off first, though?

Napoleon17 · 05-13-2009, 10:42 PM

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Originally Posted by RK_lover

Shouldn't she break it off first, though?

Yes, of course. Why wouldn't she?

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Originally Posted by Nate

Presumably, if she were interested in pursuing another relationship, she would not be engaged. If she is still engaged and interested / looking to pursue a relationship with someone other than her betrothed, she's not the type of woman you should want to be involved with, I don't think.

True, although she could have second thoughts. The engagement period is often the hardest time for a couple (up to that point), and it can cause a person to reconsider. Engagement is a commitment to get married someday. People can definitely change their mind about that, and it's better to change your mind before marriage, than after you've tied the knot. That being said, if a woman is completely committed to the idea of marrying her fiance, then it would be lame to try to make her unlove that person so she can love you.

Demon_Hunter · 05-13-2009, 10:45 PM

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Originally Posted by TunerSteve

Exactly.

A betrothal is already a commitment and the marriage ceremony caps the process. If someone is engaged, they are off limits.

This post is pretty close to reflecting my own thoughts on the matter.

When someone is engaged, I would say they are taken/spoken for. And trying to move in on him/her is definately a no no.

relient nelson · 05-13-2009, 11:03 PM

No.

Ax · 05-13-2009, 11:18 PM

Umm... no. Absolutely not. Maybe you're missing a point here... she said she would MARRY this guy, as in "Forsaking all others"... "Til death do us part"...