[MyChainsAreGone]

From personal experience, and from watching others all over the place, some people are huge jerks. I could be sitting with some people and some one says no one likes me or screw you or something to me, or I could be sitting with some friends and hear my friends talk crap about other people, which is what happened today, nice day so we sat outside at lunch and my friends just talking crap about other people.

I'm not surprised, obviously this happens, but why are people like that? I don't understand what they gain from making some one else feel like crap, even if they act a little weird.

[rock_show_host]

Originally Posted by Comma

Are people idiots for a reason?

Job 11:12
An idiot will become intelligent
When the foal of a wild donkey is born a man.

There is still hope.

[tmlfan123]

Gossip is everywhere. I know the feeling. I was hanging out with a few friends and then someone said something about some person, and pretty soon everyone, including my best friend, were bashing him, even though we'd hung out together like two weeks before, and had a blast. It doesn't make sense, but it happens.

[Yoda_me07]

yes.
the reason, is for you to become more patient.

hehe.
but yeah.

one reason why people ***** about other people is because they're insecure about themselves. when they bring other people down, it makes themselves feel better.

[bravesfan007]

James 3:

1Not many of you should presume to be teachers, my brothers, because you know that we who teach will be judged more strictly. 2We all stumble in many ways. If anyone is never at fault in what he says, he is a perfect man, able to keep his whole body in check.
3When we put bits into the mouths of horses to make them obey us, we can turn the whole animal. 4Or take ships as an example. Although they are so large and are driven by strong winds, they are steered by a very small rudder wherever the pilot wants to go. 5Likewise the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Consider what a great forest is set on fire by a small spark. 6The tongue also is a fire, a world of evil among the parts of the body. It corrupts the whole person, sets the whole course of his life on fire, and is itself set on fire by hell.

7All kinds of animals, birds, reptiles and creatures of the sea are being tamed and have been tamed by man, 8but no man can tame the tongue. It is a restless evil, full of deadly poison.

9With the tongue we praise our Lord and Father, and with it we curse men, who have been made in God's likeness. 10Out of the same mouth come praise and cursing. My brothers, this should not be. 11Can both fresh water and salt[a] water flow from the same spring? 12My brothers, can a fig tree bear olives, or a grapevine bear figs? Neither can a salt spring produce fresh water.

[Skeeter]

Usually, it's about making themselves feel better. Even if they don't have a positive self-image, they can at least think that they're better than "that guy." Then the pack mentality sets in: their friends, who likely also have a negative self-image, feel the need to assert that they are better than "that guy" as well.

Often, it is also a mask to avoid legitimate conversation that may be more personal and, therefore, revealing. The more they are able to talk about other people and their issues, the less they and their friends can focus on themselves and their own problems.

[Ordinary Sarah]

I've had a particularly difficult time with people talking smack about other people in a group I was in for school.


I think I learned the following things:

1. It just reminded even more intensely of the times I've done that to others, and the temptation there is for me to talk crap about others along with anybody.

2. I feel like, in the midst of that, it made me want to genuinely see something good about the person being talked about, since I knew my weakness in falling into gossip and unkind words.

3. God gave me opportunities to stand up when the situation came up again, to say, "Hey, I noticed this really great thing about them," or "They're so great in this area, we should all be like that". Etc.




Also, think about your own words when judging others on this...... is it fair or godly to call them "idiots" or judge them, when you have been given grace by Jesus, and when the bible says that even one who commits the smallest crime is still just as guilty as anyone?


Think of their words and actions as a call for you to be more godly - don't even hate on your enemies or someone else's enemies (since the people talking are obviously enemies of the one being talked about), and instead love them and speak the truth to them in love, and be a godly example by 1) not talking about others and 2) not even coming here to talk to us about them talking about others.



It's a mighty task to be godly and to do the right thing...... but take the verses posted by bravesfan007 as call to humble yourself and let God use you and MAKE you godly, and through that make others godly. We cannot esteem ourselves to be more godly than someone else - it makes us liars, because ALL have fallen short. Just submit yourself to Christ and his purpose and his will, and let him use you in these situations, where your own flesh fails.

[roscoestring]

I guess it's human nature to talk others down. Doesn't make it right though.
When you see someone that talks others "up" it actually makes the talker look like a bigger person.
We should all find the good in others and build up that good and make the world a better place.

[MyChainsAreGone]

I know I posted this a week or two ago ( I think ) but, while talking about the same person, its really annoying sometimes, just how he is, but at the same time its him, and no ones going to change him.

I agree Sarah, I had to stop and think today, I have been a jerk to this guy in the past, mean people suck.