[Kentl]

yeah i have two things number one
i am bi-poler (Means one second i will be as hapey as can be and the next i will be crying)
2 (I have a probelm wean it comes to this evre time i get the curage to ask a gril out (Which is not often) she turns out to be insane the last gril feind left me bleding in the grass Lagthing
i have had four gril friends each one hurt more then the next
Add my bi-poler and wow i am reley sad
well i found a gril who might not be insane (Knock on wood)
i have knwn her for the last five years but two prbelmes
1 evrey one her mom dad Brhother Sister freinds say she likes me but i did ask her oput once tore the note up but ihave seen her write notes to freinds about me
2 i have treid 100 times to try aing but i get way to scared and well after that i fell bad becase you gueesed it bi-poler
so is any one else bi-poler?
and can you help thanks
God Rocks

[Sean]

In the future can you proof read your posts. It's very difficult to read your post.

Originally Posted by Kentl

yeah i have two things number one
i am bi-poler (Means one second i will be as hapey as can be and the next i will be crying)
2 (I have a probelm wean it comes to this evre time i get the curage to ask a gril out (Which is not often) she turns out to be insane the last gril feind left me bleding in the grass Lagthing
i have had four gril friends each one hurt more then the next
Add my bi-poler and wow i am reley sad
well i found a gril who might not be insane (Knock on wood)
i have knwn her for the last five years but two prbelmes
1 evrey one her mom dad Brhother Sister freinds say she likes me but i did ask her oput once tore the note up but ihave seen her write notes to freinds about me
2 i have treid 100 times to try aing but i get way to scared and well after that i fell bad becase you gueesed it bi-poler
so is any one else bi-poler?
and can you help thanks
God Rocks

You're 14, and you don't need a girlfriend until your life stabilizes more. The fact that you've had 4 insane girlfriends by age14 means you don't have the discretion to decide who is and is not someone you should be dating.

the last gril feind left me bleding in the grass Lagthing

What does that mean?

[Rainer.]

+1

You're only 14. Don't worry about girlfriends.

[Kentl]

Originally Posted by Sean

In the future can you proof read your posts. It's very difficult to read your post.


You're 14, and you don't need a girlfriend until your life stabilizes more. The fact that you've had 4 insane girlfriends by age14 means you don't have the discretion to decide who is and is not someone you should be dating.


What does that mean?

i work a famr and i was riding a horse wean i fell off busted my nose she just lagthed
and we broke up after that the horse dose not like any one riding him so i had top break him in
i am one of the few who help that knows how to ride horse
yeah i know
well nothing was hurt beside my nose my pride so

[Dr. Worm]

Originally Posted by Kentl

yeah i have two things number one
i am bi-poler (Means one second i will be as hapey as can be and the next i will be crying)

I hate to sound rude or uncaring, but 1) Welcome to the club; and 2) Deal with it.

Feel free to do a search for my posts from a few years ago or more, there is a very clear and none-too-flattering record on CGR of some of the struggles I've had in my life. I don't exactly have the happiest history. I understand what it's like. I get it. I really do. But in my experience, the sooner you learn to deal with it and stop blaming bi-polar disorder for your problems, the better off you'll be.

2 (I have a probelm wean it comes to this evre time i get the curage to ask a gril out (Which is not often) she turns out to be insane

Relationships are frequently challenging, and girls are frequently confusing. Don't expect this to get better as time goes on. Relationships will always be challenging, and girls may always be confusing. This is frustrating, but it is also wonderful.

i have had four gril friends each one hurt more then the next

The older you get, the more serious your relationships will likely be. The more serious the relationship, the more it hurts when it ends. Don't expect this pattern to stop either.

Add my bi-poler and wow i am reley sad

The end of a relationship is very sad whether you are bi-polar or not. Sometimes, things in life are just sad, and it is completely unrelated to whatever chemical imbalances might be going on upstairs.

1 evrey one her mom dad Brhother Sister freinds say she likes me but i did ask her oput once tore the note up but ihave seen her write notes to freinds about me

1) Do you mean that you were going to ask her out, but tore the note up before you gave it to her, or that you gave her the note, and she tore it up? They are pretty different things.
2) Never, ever, ever, ask a girl out by writing her a note. I don't care how old you are, I don't care how shy you are. Ask her to her face.

2 i have treid 100 times to try aing but i get way to scared and well after that i fell bad becase you gueesed it bi-poler

Being scared to ask a girl out is normal. Feeling bad when you can't muster up the courage is normal. These things are hard, and it is not bi-polar disorder that makes them hard. They're just hard. But they are part of life. And hard as they are, they are also amazing. If your hand didn't tremble just a little bit when you picked up the phone to call a girl you like, where would the excitement be? If relationships were easy and women always made sense to us and love never hurt, it would also never capture our imaginations the way it does. Half of the most beautiful art in the world would be gone. And life would be very, very boring. Thankfully, though, it is hard to ask a girl out, and it does hurt to be rejected, and it does hurt to break up. Because this also means that the opposite is true, and that hard as it may be, it is all worth it.

[earlessdog]

I know it's been said before in this thread and every other thread about 15 year old kids wanting dating advice, but I think it needs to be emphasized.
I don't recommend dating when you are this young, because . . .

1) It is pointless. Really, what is the point? Dating is looking to find the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with. Now come on, at 14, do you really think your judgement on whether "this is the girl" is going to hold true until next year? Or next month?
I dated when I was 16, just about turning 17, and what are my opinions on it now? A waste of time, a joke, pointless. Why didn't I listen to all of the people warning me and telling me not to do it because I was too young, not mature enough, wasn't ready . . . because I was too stubborn and convinced that I was all of those.
I'm 18 now, and I look back on my dating days as an embarrassment, and now more than ever, I realize how immature I was. And you know what, even now at 18, there is no way I will be dating anytime too soon because I am STILL not mature enough to handle something like that. I know what its like, "I really like this girl, this one is different than the last, she really is, this is love . . ." 99 times out of a 100, it isn't.

2) You could get into some serious trouble. Now, I'm not judging your standards, morals, and self control here, but everyone gets tempted and the last thing you need while you're still in school (or any time) is a pregnant girlfriend.

3) $$$$

4) Who cares about the popularity of having a girlfriend. Trust me, in five years you'll look back on these days as an embarrassment.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

I am just going to point this out, but what you are describing as bi-polar does not sound a thing like the bi-polar I grew up with. (My mom is diagnosed bi-polar.) Has a mental health professional diagnosed you? Are you on medication? In my mom's case, manic stages could last week or months and the depressive stages seemed to last longer. In the case of my mother, when she is on medication, she is someone I do not even know. (She was diagnosed after I left home) She is sweet and loving, which is something I never experienced.

I mention this for a few reasons.

1) Mental illness needs professional treatment by medical professionals, we cannot help you.
2) Labels get bantered about and used inappropriately. Moody people can just be moody. My wife is not bipolar, but one minute she can be happy and the next sad. Thats life. Some people's moods change rapidly, some are slower.

Secondly, if you fell off a horse, and bloodied your nose in a funny way, I would have laughed. Heck, without that sort of humor, AFV would never have lasted a season. I laughed with my wife (after crying in pain of course) when she rebroke my nose with a loaf of french bread play swordfighting. It was just funny.

And talking to girls is scary. Period. It is not mental illness that makes it so, its life. It is no harder for you, than me. I have ghosts in my past. Bad ones. But the simple fact is, that is the one life we have.

You really would do best to not worry about girls yet. You are young.

However, if you are not diagnosed as bi-polar, please do not claim that label yourself. If anyone short of a psychiatrist or psychologist labeled you as such, I would be highly suspicious of the nature of the claim. People really call things mental illness that shouldn't be and there are a heck of a lot of people more than willing to label you as something when they have no clue what they are talking about.

I am not saying you are or you aren't. I am just saying, be careful throwing around labels like that if you are not 100% sure and diagnosed by a mental health professional.

[Kentl]

i have a really bad thing here

i know this gril and i have a crush on her she dose not like me
but i am bipolar so any time i see her i break in to tears one problem she goes to my church!

so either i stop going to the church (the only one i can go to) or i keep this up
and i dont know which one to


bipolar makes you happy one second mad the nest and things can trigger it like a crush

but you see wean my bi -polar acts up i get in trouble

so either i stop going to church or just make my self fell very bad just to praise god what should i do

P.S i have had this crush on her for four years which means it wont go away over night

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by Kentl

i have a really bad thing here

i know this gril and i have a crush on her she dose not like me
but i am bipolar so any time i see her i break in to tears one problem she goes to my church!

so either i stop going to the church (the only one i can go to) or i keep this up
and i dont know which one to


bipolar makes you happy one second mad the nest and things can trigger it like a crush

but you see wean my bi -polar acts up i get in trouble

so either i stop going to church or just make my self fell very bad just to praise god what should i do

P.S i have had this crush on her for four years which means it wont go away over night

1) You have come on here before claiming to be bipolar, and by your description, I really do not think you understand what bipolar disorder is. What you are describing is being a moody teenager, from your description.

2) You are 14, so you have had a crush on this girl since you were... 10? Seriously dude, crushes come and go at that age. And at 10? A crush? Seriously? At your age dude, its not serious.

3) I am asking this again. Have you been diagnosed by a qualified medical professional as bipolar? Your description of bipolar honestly sounds like normal emotional teenager to me. As I mentioned before, my mother, whom I lived with for many years was diagnosed bipolar and the description is nothing near the disease I have watched turn my mother from someone who spent months at a time alone in a dark room, refusing to leave, and then spending months in insane temper with objects aimed at my and my brothers head routinely. For my mother, daignosis and proper treatment have given here a new lease on life. I can talk to her, and while I feel weird, in that I do not know this sweeter woman, she is civil. Treatment by competent professionals in the field has been immensely helpful to her.

4) If you are truly bipolar, are you on medication to control your symptoms? Are you actively seeking treatment.


In short, if this is a problem related to bipolar disorder, we here at CGR cannot help you really. Its an issue to discuss with your doctors. If you are not diagnosed by a mental health professional as bipolar, DO NOT ASSUME THAT YOU ARE! I would suggest seeing a doctor to determine whether you are or are not. Also, never claim the banner of mental illness based on self diagnosis, or on someone who is not qualified, deciding you have a mental illness. Mental illnesses are serious things, and require professional help.

Leaving your church over a teenage crush seems very silly to me though, because the problem you do describe is you.

[Rainer.]

Have you gone to a psychologist, counselor or doctor about this?

[Sean]

Originally Posted by Kentl

so either i stop going to church or just make my self fell very bad just to praise god what should i do

Praising God is more important than feeling good. Particularly in this case where you're feeling bad for being around someone. Part of growing up is learning to be around people you don't feel comfortable around.

P.S i have had this crush on her for four years which means it wont go away over night

Didn't you say in the other thread you've had multiple girlfriends? Did you have a crush on this girl while dating other girls?

[MtlMom]

I merged your two threads. They are essentially the same, and you got some excellent advice in the first thread.

I will echo what has already been asked, because it is extremely important. It takes years to diagnose Bipolar Disorder. There is no test to determine that you have this mental illness. Have you been to see a doctor?

[Kentl]

yes i was told i had bi pole wean i was 8
my mom has it and i got it from her side
i do take medicine but you cant stop bipolar you can only make it less powerful


and yeah i go see doctor therapist and what not yeah it dose a word of good i am during a lot beter then i was a year ago but that was really bad then

and yeah i know bi poler gets beter but wean you are a teenager it acts up a lot more because you emotions are already crazy which means my normal crush are two times as strong me feelings are two times as strong

[Kentl]

okay well about the dating thing right now i dont care about that i want to get over it
i dont want to date and i dont care about popularity i am homeschooled so i dont go to school the only place i meet kids my age is church so its not popularity

i guess i am saying is how do i stop felling for her? because i dont want to feel like that and saying how do i get over it
and i know i dont want to date but wean you 13 and a gril ask you out you tend not to say no
that is the sad truth like i said i dont want to date i want to forget about this felling even if it is just being a teenager i got to stop this because it is ruing my life my church is the only place i go beside my house since i live in country area in Texas there is not many people around at all

thanks anyways but what i need to know is how do i get over it i have never gotten over a crush ever (all six of them)
some i have not seen in years and i still think about them
also what you say about dating wean you 14

in the old days they were married wean you 12 they were crazy i dont know why or how it worked but it did so maybe you not to young maybe we just think that
anyways just tell me how do i git over it

[bravesfan007]

I don't think there is anything I can tell you to "get over it". You're a teenager, you're human, and you're alive....you're going to have feelings.