Opinions...

SashimiOishi · 12-20-2008, 08:57 AM

Ok i like to have other peoples opinions on things... i find that they are very helpful lol...

But what do you guys think of me (17) liking someone who is 13... I dont find anything wrong with me liking her... I was just thinking about it and wondered if anyone thought it was odd...

**MtlMom** · 12-20-2008, 09:07 AM

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Originally Posted by SashimiOishi

Ok i like to have other peoples opinions on things... i find that they are very helpful lol...

But what do you guys think of me (17) liking someone who is 13... I dont find anything wrong with me liking her... I was just thinking about it and wondered if anyone thought it was odd...

Soon you will be 18 and a legal adult, and she will still be a child. 4-5 years is a lot of difference at your age.

tht00 · 12-20-2008, 09:40 AM

No, I don't think the mere act of 'liking' someone can be wrong. However, feelings are no justification for action.

In other words, even though you 'like' someone, it could be very unwise (or even wrong) to pursue anything beyond friendship.

In your case, 4 years is a big age jump, whether you realize it or not. 4 years isn't such a problem if the difference is between 24 and 28. But being a teenager, 4 years is significant as the two people involved will be in distinctly different times in their life (middle school vs high school, high school vs college, college vs career) and there will be significant differences in maturity levels.

So, to answer your immediate question, I don't think that there's anything "wrong" with liking someone younger, but you've got to realize that pursuing anything is a very unwise thing.

rock_show_host · 12-20-2008, 10:18 AM

I agree with the two above.

I'd also add that while I also agree that there's nothing wrong with just "liking" her, if you do decide that it's unwise to pursue anything then it doesn't exactly help to focus on the idea that you like her. It's not worth getting hung up on.

SashimiOishi · 12-20-2008, 10:35 AM

Yeah... i don't date at all lol... I wanted to see everyone's opinions... Just to see what was said... Thanks

Lyle · 12-20-2008, 04:29 PM

I don't think it is in anyway wise. Probably something that shouldn't even be pursued in the mind or imagination. The way you see the world will change drastically from home you see it now to how you see it in five years. The way she sees the world will turn absolutely on its head from where she is now to where she will be in ten years.

Be careful though, feelings can lead people astray and hurt them. I'm not talking about your feelings, but rather hers. It's not hard for girls that age to like guys, or rather boys, to encourage that could cause a good deal more damage in someone 13 then in someone 18 or 20.

**DaGeek** · 12-20-2008, 06:26 PM

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Originally Posted by SashimiOishi

Yeah... i don't date at all lol... I wanted to see everyone's opinions... Just to see what was said... Thanks

No offense meant, but why? In addition to the above advice, I'd say that, if you don't think something's right about what you're doing/want to do, then listen to that and don't try to go against that. Opinions of people here, while excellent, can't judge that, and, if you're not truly "cool" with it, you need to stay away until you are.

jthomas1600 · 12-20-2008, 11:30 PM

I think you also need to take into account the feelings of all who would be affected if you decided to act on these feelings. That would include her family. I have a daughter that will be 13 in about 14 months and I would be extremely unhappy/concerned if a 17 year old was expressing interest in that way. If the young man did not back of at my request, my unhappiness would escalate.