[JesusFrEaK0077]

Ok, here's the story. There's a guy in my class who I was set up with by my friends of all people. I went out to a movie with him last night and it just didn't feel right, he's already asked me to prom this year (it's not till March so I was like ) He's younger than me by 6 months and to me that seems a little strange. But I don't think I'm ready for a bf yet! Which I'm sure not many 16 year olds will say. I'm not really an "out there" type of person. I keep to myself around people so I can't tell him that cuz he's totally cool, but I liked being just friends. I know if I told him it would result in a huge mess. So I have a huge problem.

[el cabong]

Originally Posted by JesusFrEaK0077

Ok, here's the story. There's a guy in my class who I was set up with by my friends of all people. I went out to a movie with him last night and it just didn't feel right, he's already asked me to prom this year (it's not till March so I was like ) He's younger than me by 6 months and to me that seems a little strange. But I don't think I'm ready for a bf yet! Which I'm sure not many 16 year olds will say. I'm not really an "out there" type of person. I keep to myself around people so I can't tell him that cuz he's totally cool, but I liked being just friends. I know if I told him it would result in a huge mess. So I have a huge problem.

If you feel you aren't ready for a boyfriend, than you aren't ready.

The longer you wait to tell him you are not interested in that kind of relationship, the bigger the "mess" will get. It is much easier to stamp these type of situations out in the beginning as opposed to waiting.

Just tell him you're not ready for a relationship, but you would like to be friends.

[Ring of a bell]

Lets think about it. If you tell him honestly now how you feel, sure he will be dissapointed but, you only went to one movie! One movie is not very much. 16 is pretty young to date (it's not always wrong to date at that age, but most of the time it isn't wise). It is okay to say no! If you're not comfortable with it, don't do it!

If you did say yes, but you didn't want to, it would be totally unfair for the guy. You would be leading him on, and then when you finally get to the point you can't stand not telling him and you tell him 1,3,6 months into a relationship he is going to be hurt substantially more than if you tell him now!

[bravesfan007]

As been stated before, if you don't think you're ready for a relationship, then you're not.

If he is a reasonable guy, he should understand. If not, then you don't need him in your life anyway. As far as prom goes, if you feel comfortable with it, go ahead and commit. Just be sure to let him know that you want to be friends and you'd like to go as friends. Try and make him understand that there is nothing there yet. The reason I say yet is because a year from now, things may be different.

[JesusFrEaK0077]

Alright, I took care of that this morning. I called him and said I wasn't ready for a relationship just yet, I asked if we could be JUST friends, and he was a little hurt, made me feel like crap all over again! But I feel like I should have done it still. I just didn't know. I thought it would have been fine, but it wasn't right.

[Rainer.]

Yes, you did the right thing.

It is a lot better for you to have done that, then to just leave him hanging. He'll be hurt for a little while, but trust me, from his perspective down the road, he'll feel a lot better than if you just left him hanging.