[Rainer.]

The real difference between guys and girls are that girls are absolutely the most beautiful of God's creations, and guys are slightly less so.

[rock_show_host]

Originally Posted by Derogatory Stuff

I think alot of the time it's not a choice on your part but rather girls' wiring.

You know, I know enough girls and guys who land way outside of the emotional stereotypes that I think 90% of what people attribute to "wiring" is bull. I feel like "it's how they're wired" is usually just a convenient way to oversimplify the genders or reinforce social conventions about how they should act, not something that's inherently true of all (or even most) girls/guys.

[cngp90]

Originally Posted by The Sleepy Armadillo

No offense, but I respectfully disagree completely. We guys are very complex creatures as well, it's just not quite as obvious. Now, I do agree that girls seem to be a mystery a lot of the time, but that's because we're guys: hormones are raging, and we don't pay attention as well as we could. Honestly, though, have you ever heard a woman say she's got her man figured out? If girls were so complex and we were so much simpler, it would happen... As it is, I've never heard that yet.

True that. And point taken. When guys act simpler, perhaps because of the immaturity of their age (girls tend to mature slightly faster), I would think they would be less of a confusion because their full complexity is being hidden by immature simplicity... if that makes sense. And in immature simplicity, guys aren't able to understand the less hidden complexity of the female. But I wouldn't know as I have never been inside the mind of a girl lol. So maybe I should stop talking. Plus I guess I've always been relatively mature for my age That's what people say anyways. But from what I hear from my less mature friends
Hope that made some kind of sense....

Originally Posted by Reign Or Jon.

The real difference between guys and girls are that girls are absolutely the most beautiful of God's creations, and guys are slightly less so.

Way to put it!

[DaGeek]

Originally Posted by Reign Or Jon.

The real difference between guys and girls are that girls are absolutely the most beautiful of God's creations, and guys are slightly less so.

X999999999999!

[4of5Rocker]

GAH!! Why can't I talk to her at all? I had the perfect opportunity, TWICE, and didn't do ANYTHING.

*facepalms*

Why is it so hard for me to talk to anyone of the female species??? WHY?!?!?!?!?!?!??

[H.M. Murdock]

Probably because you think of them as women, thus introducing variables which render your usual ability to start conversations... inept. Try thinking of them as people. *wink *

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by H.M. Murdock

Probably because you think of them as women, thus introducing variables which render your usual ability to start conversations... inept. Try thinking of them as people. *wink *

So, so true!

Dealing with people is so much simpler than dealing with generic "girls."

We can confuse the issue by making generic stuff up about "wiring" and whatnot. But the key thing is to view people as people. You likely have far more in common with a girl than you have as difference.

People fit the stereotypes of people. I can think of guys who match what has been said of girls, and girls who are perfectly matching the stereotype of guys. So here is the thing. View her as a person, not as a future mate, a girl, a pretty girl or someone intimidating. Then, don't play games. Be you. You'd be surprised how much crap that cuts through, and you may find friends of both genders who do not seem to be fitting in friendship, who are. And worst case scenario with that is this. A fairly awkward interaction with a person. Would you be embarrassed if you struck up a conversation with a guy you had nothing in common with?

view them as YOUR species. You are the same species. Don't make it awkward.

My wife:

Has less shoes than I do, and I have 6 pairs.
Enjoys watching heart surgeries and trauma repairs in the OR.
Discusses such over dinner.
Enjoys shooting with me.
Likes action flicks and bores with most chick flicks.

Now my wife is girly in her own ways and such, but most stereotypes need not apply. She is her own woman and is strong, and not stereotypical.

I:
Hate sports.
Would rather read a book than watch TV.
Hate fried foods, buffalo wings, and bacon.
I know the basic principles of repairing a car. However, I would rather not do it myself.

Now, I am 100% all male, but my wife probably cares more about cars than I do.

I say this because people are people, not generically wired robots that fit nicely in boxes.

[jesus_chic]

Stop listening to your barin and start listening to your heart.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXKAzgBMWxcMaybe she is waiting for you to talk to her cuz she is to nervous.
Take it from a girl.
You don't have anything to lose.
you could end up where you are onw or with a great GF.
Go for it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That's my opinion so i think you shouldn't listein to any of us and just listen to your heart.
no more brain. more heart.

[Cam42]

Originally Posted by Reign Or Jon.

The real difference between guys and girls are that girls are absolutely the most beautiful of God's creations, and guys are slightly less so.

I agree.

[4of5Rocker]

Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

view them as YOUR species. You are the same species. Don't make it awkward.

Will do. Thank you all, I'm too lazy to quote everyone else.

[jesus_chic]

Coming froma girl. Go talk to her. Don't be shy, be yourself. Chances are she wants you to coemtalk to her cuz she's to shy. And if she doesn't it's not like you have anything to loose. GO FOR IT!