am i doing this right?

tinkerbell26 · 09-29-2008, 04:44 PM

i have just recently broke up with my boyfriend (one of my best friends since 4th grade) hes very sweet, gentlemen like and has high standards (for example he's saving his first kiss for marriage) and he's really cute!

anyway we started dating because I finally had the guts to tell him that I liked him and he had the guts to tell me that he's had a crush on me since fourth grade(AWWW) yeah he's amazing! we are both Christians and recently we have both been seeking God more-to get a better relationship with him. He told both of us-on the same weekend- that us dating isn't going to help us spiritually. I was devastated and tried to ignore God. But the next day he kinda ignored me because he didn't want to break up but on the phone he apologized and told me what God had told him. I cried and was pretty depressed for a week or so( i still cry a little) even though he said that we can date later just not right now. Was i being selfish for crying or was it ok?

**thesteve** · 09-29-2008, 04:58 PM

crying is fine. crying is probably healthier than not crying.

**Rainer.** · 09-29-2008, 05:02 PM

Yes, emotional release is healthy. It would probably also make you feel better to tell someone about it.

rock_show_host · 09-29-2008, 05:22 PM

Ditto to the above. And I also recommend talking with someone about it. Semi-literally crying on another's shoulder can actually help.

guitarman531 · 10-01-2008, 06:35 PM

Nothing inherently wrong with crying. If you cry to manipulate, then that's a problem. A cheesy analogy would be Karate. Learning how to effectively kick and punch is not inherently "wrong", but using those kicks and punches to steal someone's lunch money would be a "problem" =)

I also agree with everything that's been said so far--'venting' with a good friend can be very helpful and I would encourage you to do so.

**bravesfan007** · 10-01-2008, 06:44 PM

I agree with nothing wrong with crying. In fact, it could help you get over this. I, like others, suggest finding a friend and telling them how you feel.

It may seem odd because it'd be easier to vent to us here online, but we don't know you nor your situation as well as your friends.

But yes, feel free to cry. I'd be worried if you didn't cry.

Random:Dice · 10-12-2008, 02:08 PM

Congrats on being faithful it was probibly hard to take. It would have probibly been selfish to have ignored what God had said so crying about it is fine