[TunerSteve]

Originally Posted by TravisR

But don't you think you should communicate with your partner well enough so that your partner knows you think it is silly?

I mean, I don't think anyone really takes monthaversaries or whatever you want to call them very seriously. They're just a cute little thing where you maybe you talk about it and do something special if you want... but there is really no significance to them. It's not necessary to celebrate them and make them into a big deal. I don't know... I don't think I'd be able to handle someone who was really into that... but that's me.

I tend to agree with Travis. That's all part of the dating/courtship process, where you find out what your partner and yourself find as important in the realtionship. I know a guy that can't even remember his wedding anniversary,and his wife laughs about it. He places very little importance on the date itself, and she doesn't make it into a huge deal, I suppose because she knew what he was like before she accepted him in the first place. What works for one, doesn't work for all.

[Iceman-bass14]

Originally Posted by Here-am-I

Does anybody understand what I'm saying about some "monthiversaries" (I really like that way of putting it!) seeming to come from a lack of hope for the relationship's future? I say "some" because, as I said, I know there are exceptions; I ask because I wonder if anyone else sees this as much as I do.

Absolutely.My best friend's girlfriend got pissed at him last year because he didnt mention it was their one month anniversary on that day.My girlfriend and i dont 'celebrate' our monthiversaries in the sense of going out and doing something special on that day,but we normally bring it up in conversation on that day and kinda 'reflect' a little on how far we've come.(And the fact that she can still stand me.)

[x_cheese_y]

I have never understood from what point everyone is measuring their "month-anniversaries" from. Was it the first date? Because I know that on my first date with my gf, I was definitely not her boyfriend. We didn't become boyfriend/girlfriend until after a few dates. And even then, it wasn't like we had one moment in which we were finally "together". That always seemed so junior high-ish to me. Idk, maybe I'm just weird.

I definitely don't have one day that I can go back to. All I know is that it was late summer.