[DaGeek]

Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

invite her over to jam maybe? Concert?

There are never any interesting concerts where I live, but a jam... A jam would be fun. However, two teenagers alone in a building just jamming is probably something my parents would object to, to be frank. However, I'm not sure, because they allow me to do some stuff with girls as long as it's a public, easily-accessible, open place (such as my church), so I think I'll look into that.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by DaGeek

There are never any interesting concerts where I live, but a jam... A jam would be fun. However, two teenagers alone in a building just jamming is probably something my parents would object to, to be frank. However, I'm not sure, because they allow me to do some stuff with girls as long as it's a public, easily-accessible, open place (such as my church), so I think I'll look into that.

your garage, while they are home would really suffice in a just friends get to know you sort of way...

I don't know, thats where I got to know a lot of people over the years...

[DaGeek]

Originally Posted by BillSPrestonEsq

your garage, while they are home would really suffice in a just friends get to know you sort of way...

I don't know, thats where I got to know a lot of people over the years...

Well, I have neither a garage or a drum set (which is what she plays), but I see your point. I may be able to use my church sanctuary. We've talked several times about jamming, so perhaps... Perhaps that'll work.

[tigerfan88]

Originally Posted by DaGeek

We met at my church, and we both love music and play instruments in the same worship teams and were in a band, we have a lot of the same sense of humor, we like to do a lot of the same stuff, and our opinions of a lot of issues are in agreement (though there is some disagreement, heh, which can make for fun discussion).

Maybe ask her if she'd like to go shopping with you to a local guitar shop or two? You know, something like "hey, I'm thinking of picking up some new *insert musical gear/accessory here*, and wanted to know if you'd like to come along." You could turn it into not just a trip to the guitar shop, but perhaps also lunch before/afterwards and use that opportunity to talk. Or like Bill said, you could invite her over to jam at your house or go to a concert, though at a concert, you probably won't get to talk as much as you'd like.

Now having been in your situation (on the female side of things, of course, lol), I have to commend you for going at it in this manner. That's exactly what my friend did when he became interested, and for us, it just made sense. We were both extremely good friends at that point, and definitely didn't want to ruin our friendship. He started things out by asking if I wanted to go to a movie, or maybe play some games at the rec center, or simply just study for our class we had together. That's exactly what we did, and for us, it was a low-pressure way of getting to know one another.

After we had spent that time together, we did have a talk about where things were headed and that's when we mutually decided to become more than friends. I knew he was interested even when we were hanging out as just friends (mainly because he did a bit of flirting that gave it away, lol), but I was fine with that because I wasn't quite sure how I felt either way and knew we needed to spend time together to see if it was even something that could work. Now we did end up taking a break from the relationship (mainly because of our schedules this summer), but even though we're not in a relationship at present point, and even though we may never get back together, things are still fine between us. We still talk as friends and it's not at all awkward. So it can really work either way, but the important thing is to take it slow and to brand it "hanging out" instead of a "date".

[Iceman-bass14]

Originally Posted by tigerfan88

Maybe ask her if she'd like to go shopping with you to a local guitar shop or two? You know, something like "hey, I'm thinking of picking up some new *insert musical gear/accessory here*, and wanted to know if you'd like to come along." You could turn it into not just a trip to the guitar shop, but perhaps also lunch before/afterwards and use that opportunity to talk.

This is actually what popped into my mind.The music store i go to is in downtown griffin,easy walking distance from some 'nicer' food places.Granted that may not be the case for you,but i still like the idea of checking out a music store if ya'll are both interested in it.

[athanatos]

Talk to her.

[Rainer.]

It could be as easy as casually remarking to her after church or some other event "Hey, I'm hungry. WAnna go grab a bite with me?"

Or decide you need some new shirts. And of course flaunt your inexperience with fashion accessories.

[Ordinary Sarah]

I find that, when I'm going to hang out with just friends, it usually starts off as "hey, I was going to do ______ anyway, but some company would be nice, and you're totally invited if you're up for it". That goes for people asking me to do stuff one-on-one, and me asking others. No pressure, no emphasis on the "relationship".