[Mattlock]

You know how in high school you just get sad for no real reason? My friends always tried to blame that on other people. They'd be having one of those days, I'd not give them a call or something or be unable to talk, and the next day it's my fault they're sad.

Maybe that's just me.

[BillSPrestonEsq]

Originally Posted by Mattlock

You know how in high school you just get sad for no real reason? My friends always tried to blame that on other people. They'd be having one of those days, I'd not give them a call or something or be unable to talk, and the next day it's my fault they're sad.

Maybe that's just me.

Ok, so you are meaning projection? Okay, thats a heck of a lot different than I was thinking, and no, I never had those sorts of time in high school. My latter half of high school was such ridiculous melodrama that something was always going on and about 10 of us always knew whose fault it was... Then again, I ran with hooligans so avoiding jail time and getting each other to court appearances and figuring out whose house you could crash at while kicked out was the big thing.

So I think we had very different experiences. People who project onto you are no fun. I never hang out around them really.

[adamkaboom]

Originally Posted by bobthecockroach

Ok. This I can agree with. "Reasoned passion" sounded more to me like checking your wallet and looking both ways before deciding whether or not to be hungry in the first place.

Brilliant

[athanatos]

I know this thread is old. Perhaps it was satisfied. I wanted to throw my two cents in though.

When I think of emotional maturity, I usually think of particular people. They are characterized by their recognition of the appropriateness of their emotions. They know when they are being unreasonable or unjustified; they recognize if they are angry when they should be, and when they shouldn't they cool down; they recognize when they are getting caught up in a passionate moment, and know if it is right to keep going; they recognize when they are being unfair to people. I guess this could be summed up with a previous post about being "responsible for your emotions."

Then the other side of it is the appropriateness of their responses with other people. For example, the proverb "a gentle answer turns away wrath." Knowing to respond in that way, instead of revenge or feeding anger, takes a lot of maturity. Furthermore, it is recognizing when someone is hurt or discouraged, and then knowing how to react with empathy and encouragement. It is being sensitive and receptive to people's emotions. For example, Bill and his wife.

I mean, look at examples of emotional immaturity. They don't care what other people are feeling, they don't recognize when their passions are working against them, and they just don't care to fix either problem. Often, I think of these people lacking the ability to convey their own emotions, as if they really haven't developed their own emotional expression, let alone deciphered other's.

[Random:Dice]

That sounds cool but if i was to see someone who knows that type of stuff id say they were wise